In fencing matches this behavior would lead to an ejection from the piste. Here leaping roughshod on the sensitivities of others, refusing to show the least comprehension of each other's point of view is implausibly attributed to an excess of love for the person one is abusing.
It's very like the way Democrats do social programs. The intention is noble so the outcomes don't matter. And this is explained as an example of "fruits of the Spirit".
Will prayerfully ponder your thoughtful exhortation more.
My initial response is that there's entirely far too much thin skinned pride and brittleness in most RELIGIOUS circles and discussions.
Christ sliced through such rather brazenly, typically, and usually the slice was kattywumpus to what others would have predicted a slice should have been.
If something's not true--it's not true. It may be dramatically and horrendously and devastatingly not true--but it's just not true. I can treat it as just not true or I can get all energized about it not being true. My choice.
The same is true about whether I construe something as insulting, insufferable, blasphemous-to-me, an outrageous affront to my current most cherished icon or idol or champion; or whatever such. I choose the focus, the perspective and the attitude.
I could, imho, legitimately, Biblically be utterly outraged and foaming at the mouth ranting over every "MOTHER OF GOD" phrase I read hereon--because I see it as an outrageous TEN COMMANDMENT VIOLATING affront to my Lord Jesus The Christ. But I don't. I understand that for at least many RC folks, such is an aid, however mystifyingly to me, an aid instead of a violation in their Christian walk.
The obliviousness to the spiritual and Biblical hazard is beyond me, however--and one which I feel constrained in my mind and spirit to continue to pontificate about.
And, in my construction on reality, as long as my heart is right . . . lots of things are fair in love and war and religious 'dialogue' . . . exchanges, holding forths-ings . . . . . . . especially if there's a chance that something startling will provoke a new thought, a new perspective, a new openness to Holy Spirit's wooing and leading into all truth.
CHRIST WAS BRAZENLY AFFRONTIVE in most things He said--particularly to the religious pontificators of the day.
I'm happy to follow in His model, pattern, way.
however flawdly.