I am not denying that. I agree with you that man can never ascend to God on his own. When a person is said to be righteous, it is because God has made him so - and not by merely declaring some legal status. God MAKES us righteous internally, as the Spirit comes to us and makes us a new creation. Thus, it is not an "either/or" - either me or God. It is both - God and I cooperating. I am given the grace to obey God and I am expected to obey Him. That is the basis for my upcoming judgment. Did I utilize the gifts God has given me. The parable of the Talents clearly shows this judgment and the interaction that exists between God's gifts and man's response.
The mere fact that we are judged shows that man is involved in the equation - as God desires ALL men to be saved. Since some are not, obviously some men do not respond. Thus, man is part of the equation on who is to be saved.
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God does not stand and hold anyone back from Salvation. If someone goes to Hell, it is because they have rejected the message which God gave them and because they are a sinner.
However, nobody comes to the Father unless the Spirit draws him, and of all that the Father gives Christ he will lose nothing. The very faith to believe is a fruit of the Spirit of God in our lives, for our nature will give us an inclination to turn from God, not to Him.
We are much closer together on man's righteousness than one would imagine. But I am "Calvinistic" (non hyper-Cal) in my view of how man fits into the equation.