Doormat is probably the wrong term. Loving your enemies does not mean doing everything they say. Half my church is my enemy. They want to destroy my Pastor's ministry. I still love them all but I will not join them in their recall vote.
Yuck.
Those situations are always sooooooooo messy.
And lots more heat than light.
Usually plenty of egos involved . . . though blaming theology or wounded egos or morals or whatever . . . though sometimes there are real problems . . . I think usually it's some sort of water gun contest. Sadly.