Scripture is clear that grace can be given in vain. It does NOT follow that God's graces will ALWAYS bring a man to be righteous. Otherwise, why do saved people sin? Mentioning Paul, the exception, does not disprove the norm. And even Paul STILL had to battle with sin. God's graces SAVED Paul, but they did not inexorably force him to always follow God's will. The fact that even Paul sinned, I believe, is proof enough to show that God's graces to do a specific action - to be loving to my brother today - are not always efficacious.
There is no doubt we agree that it is God who is the driving force behind any good we do. We are not Semi-Pelagians. Even after we are "saved" by Baptism, we STILL require God's actual grace to abide in His love in EVERY good action that we potentially can do. That we fail is evidence that man's free will to choose good or evil exists even AFTER our regeneration.
There is not ONE person saved who God did not want saved. There is not ONE person lost that God cannot save if He set His mind to it.
Of course. Having free will does not take away anything from God's power and freedom.
Our differences are hair breath in length but the theological implications are profoundly significant.
Probably what is more important is how our beliefs translate into action. If we do not love, it doesn't matter what we believe on this subject. We aren't going to heaven because of our knowledge on this subject. Frankly, I consider this a mystery. Who can say how God's graces and man's freedom interact on a given specific situation.
Regards
God does not give anything including His grace away in vain. To assume so is to say that God is limited in either His knowledge or abilities.
Saved people sin simply because we are not free from the flesh. We spiritually want to do what is right, we physically fail from time to time.
That being said, it is incumbent on us to understand God's nature. In scripture God demands that we have a right understanding of Him and that we know the right way to worship Him. After all He spent a great deal of time writing a book for us about Himself. Christians shouldn't just dismiss theological points or scripture without careful consideration. Mary, we read "treasured all these things, pondering them in her heart" (Luke 2:19)
Quite frankly, it's the same lie in the garden that we will know "good and evil". Isn't that what this is? God has given us our "free will" to choose between "good and evil". It was a lie back then. It is a lie now.