The point is if God wants a man to have the gift, that man will have the gift.
If God wants to save a man, that man will be saved.
If Christ died for you, you will have eternal life.
God is far less tentative than some would have Him.
"For [the kingdom of heaven is] like a man going on a journey, [who] called his own slaves and entrusted to them his possessions. And to one he gave five talents, but to another two, but to another one, to each according to his ability..."(Matthew 25:14-15)
Are you familiar with this parable? What happens to the slave (us) given ONE talent, BUT DOESN'T USE IT? What is that man's destiny as a result? Having the gift doesn't mean the man will USE the gift... Man has free will.
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Christ died for the sin of ALL men, not just the elect. Unfortunately, some men choose not to take advantage of Christ's redemptive work.
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