I see fear very differently. John the Baptist preached it. To me, fear of the Lord is an appreciation of the greatness of the power of God. Therefore, to understand God better is to fear him more. Next to Him, we are bugs, beloved bugs, but bugs. I see the Biblical use of the concept as a good thing and not inconsistent with love at all.
"Next to Him, we are bugs, beloved bugs, but bugs."
No we're not. We are, as the Fathers say, a marvel of the angels. But there is no comparison between us as finite created beings and our ineffable and transcendant Triune God. This is no denial of the fact that Adam and Eve were created in the image and likeness of God. Even after the Fall, they retained the image of God, but lost His "likeness". Through the Incarnation we are again able to attain theosis, which is the fullness of the "likeness" of God wherein we share in God's uncreated energies, though not, of course in His essence.
Of course, owe and reverence, but the west also sees a vengful and angry God. That is most unfortunate.