You and me both.
That aside, I am convinced that our differences on this issue [and others] are more about perspective than reality. This is further aggrevated by our propensity to miscommunicate. Add to that certain emotional investments made by the various parties involved and what you have is "Schism Maintenance 101".
Not to change the subject, but I have an off topic question:
Is a zebra a black animal with white stripes or a white animal with black stripes?
Zoologists say that a zebra is a white animal with black stripes. Why?