Amen.
Perhaps because you catch more flies with honey. And I would wager an even $10 that not one word that the Calvinists have uttered in response to Steven's announcement has had one iota of effect upon him other than "yup, that's about what I expected." And that's not something to take pride in.
I will still debate doctrinal, historical and cultural points with vigor with Steven. But, I would further wager that conversions in 80% of the cases are not accomplished by study, but by relationship. And it's mighty hard to have a relationship with someone you hold at arm's length.