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Dr. Laura Loses Her Religion
Forward ^ | 8/15/03 | LISA KEYS

Posted on 08/14/2003 5:50:38 AM PDT by RJCogburn

With 12 million Americans tuning in daily, controversial syndicated radio-show host Laura Schlessinger — known to all as "Dr. Laura" — is arguably the best-known Orthodox Jew in the United States.

Rather, she was.

In a shocking if little-noticed revelation, Schlessinger — who very publicly converted to Judaism five years ago — opened "The Dr. Laura Schlessinger Program" on August 5 with the confession that she will no longer practice Judaism. Although Schlessinger said she still "considers" herself Jewish, "My identifying with this entity and my fulfilling the rituals, etc., of the entity — that has ended."

And with that, Orthodox Judaism lost its loudest mouthpiece and its most prominent "rabbi," as it were, with the largest American pulpit — with the exception of, perhaps, presidential candidate Joseph Lieberman.

Syndicated nationally since 1994, Schlessinger has won over listeners with her hard-edged advice and razor-sharp tongue. Yet her brash style, not to mention her espousal of a strict "moral health" code — including controversial condemnations of homosexuality as "a biological error" — put her at odds with wide swaths of the Jewish community. Many found her moralist, black-and-white, you're-with-me-or- against-me stance to be more representative of Evangelical Christians than of Jews, who were often among her most outspoken critics.

Nonetheless, even Schlessinger's detractors were shocked by the news. "I can't tell you how significant this is," said fellow Jewish media star and "Kosher Sex" author Rabbi Shmuley Boteach, who has sparred with Schlessinger over her comments on homosexuality. "Dr. Laura always equated her morals and ethics with Jewish morals and ethics. That placed the American Jewish community in a real fix; on the one hand, she made Judaism very popular, on the other, she made it vilified and hated by many people."

"I think Judaism is better off not being saddled and directly associated with Dr. Laura's means," he said, adding, "although she is still a Jew."

Schlessinger's office said she was unavailable for comment.

Schlessinger began her August 5 program by noting that, prior to each broadcast, she spends an hour reading faxes from fans and listeners. "By and large the faxes from Christians have been very loving, very supportive," she said. "From my own religion, I have either gotten nothing, which is 99% of it, or two of the nastiest letters I have gotten in a long time. I guess that's my point — I don't get much back. Not much warmth coming back."

Schlessinger even hinted at a possible turn to Christianity — a move that, radio insiders say, would elevate her career far beyond the 300 stations that currently syndicate her show. "I have envied all my Christian friends who really, universally, deeply feel loved by God," she said. "They use the name Jesus when they refer to God... that was a mystery, being connected to God."

In her 25 years on radio, Schlessinger said she was moved "time and time again" by listeners who wrote and described that they had "joined a church, felt loved by God and that was my anchor."

Michael Medved, a conservative, nationally syndicated, radio talk-show host, celebrated the Sabbath with Schlessinger about a year ago. "We had talked about having Shabbat again," he said. When he heard of Schlessinger's defection, "My first response was to pick up the phone and try and expedite [the visit]."

"I think it's a shame," he said. "Though, of course, she was controversial in some eyes, she is one of the most admired women in America. Having the most admired woman in America speak joyously about Passover, Shabbat and Jewish lifestyle events — all of that was quite wonderful."

Of her conversion to Judaism, Schlessinger said, "I felt that I was putting out a tremendous amount toward that mission, that end, and not feeling return, not feeling connected, not feeling that inspired. Trust me, I've talked to rabbis, I've read, I've prayed, I've agonized and I came to this place anyway — which is not exactly back to the beginning, but more in that direction than not."

"Was Laura naive to think, 'gosh, I'll be the queen of the Jews'? Yes, she was naive," said Medved. "Part of that comes from not growing up in the Jewish community. It's so rare to find a celebrity embrace of Jewish religiosity of any kind, I can see why Laura would think her very public embrace would have led to a more enthusiastic reaction. But given all the crosscurrents and controversies that divide our community, I can see why that expectation was wrong."

In 2001, despite the controversy surrounding her, the National Council of Young Israel honored Schlessinger for her "traditional American values." Rabbi Pesach Lerner, the executive director of Young Israel, was surprised by Schlessinger's defection but declined to comment on it.

Born to a Jewish father and an Italian Catholic mother, Schlessinger was raised in Brooklyn in a home that was without religion. Approximately 10 years ago, prompted by a question from her son during a viewing of a Holocaust documentary, Schlessinger, 56, began exploring her Jewish roots.

Yet last week's revelation was far from the first time Schlessinger has been wracked with religious doubts. Lacking a religious background, she has spent a lifetime searching for that missing something, and "each thing I tried left me feeling empty," she told Philadelphia's Inside magazine in 1998. Having already undergone a Conservative conversion in 1997, after a debacle with the Jewish Federation of Greater Dallas — a now-legendary affair in which she allegedly rejected three hotel suites, wouldn't ride in taxis and offended the entire audience at a $500 plate fundraiser — Schlessinger was tempted to give up on Judaism completely, but decided to undergo an Orthodox conversion instead.

"A large part of me wanted to make a statement after that experience, to stand even taller about Jewish values," she told the Jewish Telegraphic Agency in 2001. "Besides, if you don't have an Orthodox conversion, you can't get buried in Israel. I want to be close to ground zero."

Rabbi Reuven Bulka, a fellow radio host who presided over Schlessinger's Orthodox conversion, said he was "stunned" by his friend's 180-degree turn. "It didn't make my day, shall we say."

"She obviously has a tremendous impact," said the congregational rabbi from Ottawa, Ont. "When she went through the evolutionary stage of her journey, a lot of people were inspired by her own excitement about it. I can't tell you I know 100 people who became Sabbath observant because of it, but certainly it was a feel-good message for a lot of people. That these feel-good messages won't be coming anymore is certainly a loss."

Other Jews within earshot are far from sad to see her go. "I don't think this is any great loss to the Jewish universe," said Susan Weidman Schneider, the executive editor of Lilith magazine. "I don't think she was a particularly effective or useful spokesperson. She doubtless alienated more people than she drew toward Judaism."

"So, let her say she's no longer a practicing Jew," she added. "Let her be just a garden variety, anti-choice conservative."

"I still see myself as a Jew," Schlessinger said on the air last week. "But the spiritual journey and that direction, as hardcore as I was at it, just didn't fulfill something in me that I needed."

"All I know is, in my experiences with her — which have been considerable — I haven't known her to do anything less than 100%," Bulka said. "Anything she did, she did fully. The scary thing is if she said she's leaving, it's very forboding."

"I thought she was a tough little lady — I didn't think she'd chicken out so easily," said Rabbi Isaac Levy, the chairman of Jews for Morality, who has staunchly supported Schlessinger's conservative agenda. "She's gotten a couple of kicks in the chin and she's succumbed to it."

"It seems incredible that an ethicist and moralist of her standing would invoke such shallow arguments," said Boteach, who was en route to an appearance on the titillating syndicated television show "Blind Date." "I never got great applause for my work from the Jewish community — but my people are my people, whether they love or hate me."


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To: RJCogburn
Much of Dr. Laura's account of her alienation with being an Orthodox Jew deals with her "feelings" of connecting to God.

Faith is a gift from God, not something that can be measured by how warm and toasty a person "feels" inside.

For Christians, we're told to expect hardships as we carry our own crosses so we're not always going to "feel good."

If Dr. Laura is religion shopping and looking for a "warm feeling" from her God, her belief system will always be transitory and fleeting because a true faith is not one that always makes you "feel good".

101 posted on 08/14/2003 9:13:48 AM PDT by BigTime
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To: RJCogburn
Rabbi Boteach is MICHAEL JACKSON's mentor/friend!! Some religious person that is....and what an awful thing to say about Dr. Laura...his "so-called" friend.
102 posted on 08/14/2003 9:20:33 AM PDT by Ann Archy
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To: BigTime
AMEN!!
103 posted on 08/14/2003 9:23:31 AM PDT by PaulZe
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To: Office Manager
Well said.
104 posted on 08/14/2003 9:29:39 AM PDT by Quix (DEFEAT her unroyal lowness, her hideous heinous Bwitch Shrillery Antoinette de Fosterizer de MarxNOW)
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To: brbethke
Sadly, the Jewish religion of my inlaws does NOT even teach about a Messiah coming...it's not important to today, is what they say!!

So, what's to look forward to?? No Messiah coming to save them, so they believe that just being a god person is good enough...believe in abortion, practice abortion, gay? No problem....just go to temple twice a year ...don't eat pork and you'll die and there's NOTHING after death!! The Rabbi tells them there really isn't a heaven or hell.

It's like they are on the street corner waiting for the bus for 2000 years after the bus has come and gone.....and really not liking the people that have gotten to their destination by bus.

Dr. Laura will find her way...the Holy Spirit will guide her.

106 posted on 08/14/2003 9:33:27 AM PDT by Ann Archy
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To: HiTech RedNeck
It WOULD be interesting seeing her wrap her growing awareness around Grace.

At 56, I'm STILL TRYING to do the same thing.

AMAZING GRACE.

God's
Riches
At
Christ's
Expense

Awesome.
107 posted on 08/14/2003 9:34:44 AM PDT by Quix (DEFEAT her unroyal lowness, her hideous heinous Bwitch Shrillery Antoinette de Fosterizer de MarxNOW)
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To: WorkingClassFilth
Mostly agree with you.

Wouldn't suggest you try and be harsher than Dr Laura, however.

108 posted on 08/14/2003 9:36:11 AM PDT by Quix (DEFEAT her unroyal lowness, her hideous heinous Bwitch Shrillery Antoinette de Fosterizer de MarxNOW)
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To: Matchett-PI
Much wisdom in your words.
Thanks.
109 posted on 08/14/2003 9:42:51 AM PDT by Quix (DEFEAT her unroyal lowness, her hideous heinous Bwitch Shrillery Antoinette de Fosterizer de MarxNOW)
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To: reg45
God bless cheeseburgers!

doh...forgot i just started the atkins diet :(

God bless cheeseburgers without the buns!
110 posted on 08/14/2003 9:44:37 AM PDT by Johnbalaya
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To: RJCogburn
"Many found her moralist, black-and-white, you're-with-me-or- against-me stance to be more representative of Evangelical Christians than of Jews, who were often among her most outspoken critics."

If Jews don't believe in black and white, then what's the point of all that law keeping?

111 posted on 08/14/2003 10:02:55 AM PDT by MEGoody
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To: reg45
I wasn't sure, that's why I said think. I see it's in Physiology. She has a few counseling certifications, though. I wasn't aware of that.
112 posted on 08/14/2003 10:03:47 AM PDT by KCmark (I am NOT a partisan.)
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To: RJCogburn
Let me put my two cents' worth in here.

First, I never much cared for Dr. Laura because she was (are you ready for this?) mean to the people who called her. Despite my cast-iron moralism (and I never had any problem with her moral positions) I've been through enough to know that humiliating someone publicly is not always the way to help someone.

Secondly, it was my understanding that she was an evolutionist who ridiculed creationism. Now if she becomes a chr*stian watch her back-peddle, once again creating the impression that creationism is a uniquely chr*stian concept (which it isn't).

Third, Shmuley Boteach, despite his Lubavitch origins, is "Michael Jackson's rabbi." 'Nuff said. And as for the screeching banshees at Lilith or anywhere else, the TORAH defines what Judaism is, and not anyone else. (Man, I wish the Rabbis (the authentic ones) would reassert their historic roles as the rulers of an autonomous community. It would be interesting to see the banshees screaming at them when they would be summoned to appear before a Beit Din.)

And fourth, whatever Dr. Schlesinger's motivations (which only G-d knows) it is indeed disappointing both that she received so little support from the Jewish community and that she would leave the religion because so many liberals think they are good practitioners of it. Torah remains Absolute Truth even when only false religions support morality and "proud Jews" oppose it. Dr. Laura should have tried being a Noachide for a while. Sheesh. The whole point of being an `Ivri, as Abraham was, is to be willing to stand alone on one side of the divide with the entire world on the other.

HaShem Hu' Ha'Eloqim, 'ein `od millevaddo!

113 posted on 08/14/2003 10:25:14 AM PDT by Zionist Conspirator (G-d's laws or NONE!!!)
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To: Quix
The "Hound of Heaven"? Is this a reference to God? I've never heard God referred to as such.
114 posted on 08/14/2003 10:33:06 AM PDT by stevio
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To: Matchett-PI
I don't disagree. My point was that someone who has not yet even figured out her own religious beliefs is not a suitable source of moral judgment for others. She's morally confused; we don't need the blind leading the blind, lest they both fall into a pit.
115 posted on 08/14/2003 10:57:54 AM PDT by Sloth ("I feel like I'm taking crazy pills!" -- Jacobim Mugatu, 'Zoolander')
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To: Quix
your feeling is fine with me. i understand your thought. she gave two different answers to the same basic question. some people (dr. laura) can give two different answers to the same question. some people (me) could pull credibility from that person. and others (you) would agree with both answers. that is what makes this world turn. those that make things happen, those that watch things happen, and those who say, "what just happened?"
116 posted on 08/14/2003 11:51:21 AM PDT by LandofLincoln
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To: stevio
Yes. It refers to God and His Almighty Love for us.

He goes out and extensively searches for the lost sheep.

He nails Himself to The Cross for our Redemption.

He relentlessly woos and searches for His Beloved.

Individuals can reach a point of no return in running from Him. He says that He will not always strive with an individual.

But, generally speaking, for most of us . . . He's a very faithful Hound of Heaven--searching us out and wooing us wherever we may be, even no matter how fast and far we run.

As David said--if we go to the depths of the sea, He is there; the highest mountain, He is there; even Sheoul, He is there; the stars, He is there; the bowels of the earth, He is there.

But He woos. He does not make us puppets. But He's a faithful Hound of Heaven searching after, hopelessly slathering His affections over us whether we can discern them as such or not.

He can be fierce. But His Love is the most fierce aspect of His intensity, IMHO.
117 posted on 08/14/2003 11:59:18 AM PDT by Quix (DEFEAT her unroyal lowness, her hideous heinous Bwitch Shrillery Antoinette de Fosterizer de MarxNOW)
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To: LandofLincoln
Thanks.

I just know interpersonal relationships are incredibly complex.

I've given different suggestions to counseling clients SEEMINGLY in the same or closely similar situations. But the details and nuances were significantly different enough . . . or perhaps the different people were in different points in time in the similar dynamics--that it was ESSENTIAL to give a different suggestion.

But laymen, bystanders or even some other professionals could understandably be mystified that such different suggestions could have been given to such SEEMINGLY similar situations.

Details can matter a lot.

AND SOMETIMES, counselors on reflection, after the fact, think differently, too.

It's too easy to judge--especially without 100% of the information--which is always impossible to have--especially for 'mere' bystanders/onlookers.

One thing about counseling, though. People are incredibly, incredibly, INCREDIBLY HARD TO CHANGE MOST OF THE TIME. They are stuck in ruts. And regardless of how painful the ruts are--the ruts are familiar and therefore the pain is comfortable and even sort of friendly to them--they are often reluctant to give the familiar pains up for the terrors of change.

Therefore, whatever the counselor is dealing with is likely to present itself over and over and over for a multitude of intervention suggestions--before successful change is finally achieved. And I say that from the stand point of one who my supervisors--nationally famous therapists--tended to characterize as getting people moving along toward health far faster than average.

People--even desperate people--can be incredibly stubborn in resisting the very change they are screaming so loudly for.

Amazing critters, us.

118 posted on 08/14/2003 12:09:18 PM PDT by Quix (DEFEAT her unroyal lowness, her hideous heinous Bwitch Shrillery Antoinette de Fosterizer de MarxNOW)
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To: Kevin Curry
Her most severe detractors hate her because she shines bright lights in their dark, shameful places.

This is the kernel of truth.

119 posted on 08/14/2003 12:14:02 PM PDT by af_vet_1981
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To: brbethke
Did you hear about the Mormon who converted to Universalism?

He keeps going door-to-door for no apparent reason.

120 posted on 08/14/2003 12:15:10 PM PDT by anniegetyourgun
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