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"well I would normally tend to agree. But when he says he's 6 years old and just knew he was different and couldn't figure it out until he was about 10, I'm not so sure. "

There are counselors out there who specialize in this. Has he sought out any of those?

I also think it's learned behavior. I suspect something happened by the time he was 10, that caused him to associate sexual feelings with males. It may have even happened before he was 6 but I suspect the choices he made as an adolescent reinforced those desire patterns.

The idea that homosexuality is a learned, not inherited behavior is most likely the truth.

What we, as a society, do not stop to realize, is that it is society that forces that path of learning. We are responsible for it, not those that follow the only path they see.

For explanation:

Just because a male has effiminate behaviour, does not mean his preference sexually (initiated by a rise in hormones) should be for males. SOCIETY MAKES THAT ASSUMPTION. IT IS TAUGHT on TV, in SCHOOLS, DURING JOKES. (Remember the gay male hairdresser jokes?)

Since effeminate behaviour does not jostle the hormones of the females, they shy away from believing such a person would even want to have sex with them.

SO, Everyone wants to be wanted. When females don't want you, where do you turn for love. And I believe it is love that is the real driving factor for homosexuality on both sides of the human sexual equation. Love, not sex. Or I should say, the need to be needed by someone, anyone.

Sex, or the drive to complete the sex act can be ignored, or relieved.

The need to be wanted, to be needed, to feel like someone cares about you, can not. No one makes fun of you for not having sex. (well, amongst the jr. high and sr. high crowd, it can be an issue, but that isn't what causes homosexuality)

BUT, you can't get away from yourself. You want someone to care about you, to love you. I have seen examples over and over of the extremes humans go to to BE LOVED. Even to ignoring sex,if doing so means THEY GET LOVE, COMPANIONSHIP.

Another important, although less driving influence is just that it is so popular these days. Society, once again, is making rules telling kids they have a right to he homosexual. Our government likewise. Is it a wonder those that think they are homosexual, want to believe they have no choice?