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Mister Magoo, you really don't know what you're talking about. So there is something wrong with someone if they don't have sex until their 30's or 40's. As a Christian who badly wanted to be married (but wanted to find the right woman), I did not have sex until I was 41 when I got married. I disliked being single and I wanted to be married, but I made a conscious choice to not have sex until I married... And now I'm married to a great woman. I HAVE A SUGGESTION FOR YOU: Don't give people bad advice.

Judging from most of the comments on this article, I've come to the conclusion that I am totally screwed (figuratively, of course).

Being 33, male, and a virgin, it seems the only people who don't think there's something wrong with a person like me are either married and/or male, so no help there. Considering the stack of Playboy, Maxim, and other similar magazines over in the corner, and my reaction to them, I'm neither homosexual nor asexual.

I do have to confess, though, at this point my celibacy is not entirely of my choosing. Somewhere along the way, I never learned how to start a relationship which would lead to anything more than friendship. I've known several attractive, intelligent women since high school, and have been considered a "buddy" by all of them. Of course, I've received plenty of advice from those friends and from family, most of which boils down to "Just be yourself, and it will happen when you least expect it." Well, being myself hasn't gotten me anywhere yet, and I don't know how my expectations can be any lower than they are now.

If I have any problem, it may be that I'm just too dense to notice the women that may be interested.