[RnMomof7]

Assuming that your motivation is to find the right wife forever, making sure you are sexually compatible is as important as making sure you agree on children and handling money. Just last week, we celebrated our 25th anniversary. I credit the longevity of our marriage to our spending four years trying out every aspect of marriage before making the commitment - and to both of us trying out a lot of other partners first.

I credit our 42 years to not trying on every shoe to see if it fit..

Stats show the divorce rate is higher amount people that live together before marriage than those that do not

People that fall into the sack to see if they "fit" often substitute that for a relationship where they really have to talk about things and ideas and see if they will be friends AFTER they are married a couple of years

Advice to my children..marry a friend, it gives you something to talk about outside the bedroom beside "positions "

[supercat]

Stats show the divorce rate is higher amount people that live together before marriage than those that do not

Of the events:

1. First Base
2. Second Base
3. Third Base
4. "Home"
5. Cohabitation
6. Ring #1
7. Ring #2

It seems that there are 105 possible permutations (I suppose one could do the bases in non-standard sequence, but it seems likely). Are there any surveys that provide a somewhat detailed breakdown of marriage success for the different sequences, rather than just separating people into those where (5) precedes (7) vs. those where (7) precedes (5)?

[BlazingArizona]

People that fall into the sack to see if they "fit" often substitute that for a relationship where they really have to talk about things and ideas and see if they will be friends AFTER they are married a couple of years

You're talking about a diffferent problem: couples who find that the sexual part of their relationship is so good that they don't care if anything else everr develops. I'm more concerned with situations in which the couple wants every important aspect of the relationship to work right. Finding out that your husband is an "ice king" when you're not is not something you want to have happen after the marriage takes place.