Posted on 06/15/2003 10:39:14 AM PDT by Mister Magoo
I once heard a Chineses Proverb that said something to the effect that a man that has nothing on his mind but sex has nothing of importance to think about
How nice that your husband enjoys you for more than a "playmate" , you got a keeper
Of the events:
1. It seems that every private matter is now some sort of public and usually political matter. On the left you have hedonists who broadcast every odd thing they do -- we are supposed to listen with admiration to all the details of their orgys and their gay or bi or transgendered genderbenderism. On the right, you have people making public professions of celibacy or virginity or whatever. I remember when Clinton was in office and a religious group held some sort of pro-celibacy rally near the White House. At the rally, a lot of teenagers proclaimed their intention to remain celibate. I am sympathetic to people wanting to counter the hedonists with something a little more sane, but I was dismayed at so personal a matter being turned into a political rally. I was thinking, "What's this? Are we supposed to have a national sex policy in the same way the left talks about having a national industrial policy or socialiced medicine?" I was also concerned about the physical integrity of so many young virgins being placed almost within reach of Bubba, but that is another story.
2. One thing you can be sure of -- the left will continue to politicize sex. They really don't see anything as being a private matter -- and I mean private in the sense that one is considered competent to make one's own choices without the help of the annointed. The left has co-opted sex -- sex is just another tool, so to speak, which is why some "transgendered" rally will predictably turn into a demand for more socialism, and a "gay pride" march will denounce "American imperialism" and demand socialized medicine and a 20 hour workweek. The left is anxious to bring all sorts of fringe people into the movement, lest they miss the all-important chainsaw fetish vote. It is all a numbers game.
3. I can excuse the left of their cynical numbers game because that is the way they think -- if they thought differently, they would no longer be the left as we know it today. I would be no more shocked at them then I would be surprised that a leopard didn't change its spots. However, I am disappointed when the right does the same thing and takes what should be a private matter and turns it into a public spectacle. It would be a victory for decency if the right could, as much as possible, de-politicize sex. I know this is not always possible because the left is busy making everything a political issue. Still, we should abstain from making new political issues of what should be private matters. A case in point is this story. Methinks that holding a press conference after a date, announcing that one is still celibate, is the most certain way to ensure that one's celibacy will continue forever! While a man not being able to commit to a relationship and not having sex might be more healthy than the usual (The "usual" being a man not being able to commit to a relationship but lying to his girlfriend of the moment and having sex) -- I have to wonder about a man so self-important to think that his personal situation is worth a press conference.
4. I really don't understand this trend in contemporary America to make every personal matter into a media circus or a political rally. I said I don't understand this trend to make everything personal a public matter, but I admit it is sometimes enlightening. I remember several years ago when Clinton's misconduct became headline news. At about the same time Bob Dole was advertising for Viagra. The leading Democrat was accused of being a serial rapist while a senior Republican politician talked about his impotence. That is everything you need to know about the American two-party system.
OTOH, if one has already bought the cow and the milk dries up, why keep feeding it?
They were dating for six months and she wanted a committment (and sex)
No, she was willing to abstain until marriage also. She just wanted to know that it was all LEADING to marriage, so that the abstinence would be (a)bearable (b)OVER with, someday, and he couldn't assure her of his good intentions in that department.
Even though I'm only hearing his side of things, I will take him at his word, and here's what HE said she said: "But after six months, she wanted me to make a commitment. She felt if she knew we were going to marry then she could abstain."
That doesn't say anything about marrying there and then, or even setting a date. They were already abstaining from sex with each other, so there was also no question of their getting engaged and then having sex before the wedding. The problem was, she's on the marriage path, he's obviously not. Not with her, anyway.
He should have let her down easier and earlier. What woman wants to wait indefinitely for a man to determine his own feelings? The fact that he didn't "use" her sexually doesn't change the fact that he still messed with her head.
And that's not nice either.
Personally I think I'm too good for the little pompous ass (as well as too old, thank God). I'd never treat a man the way he treated her.
I reread the article, and I have to conclude that he does come off as a pompous ass. That tone of moral superiority kind of grates on your nerves. It's so ironic that this article turned up this morning, as I was thinking about my 5 year dry spell, and how cranky I'm getting, hahahaa!
It's one thing to have good morals, but the whole purpose of dating when you are young is to find the person that you will spend the rest of your life with. There should be signs of affection; if there isn't when you're dating, there sure won't be any after the marriage.
Well, I got engaged after 4 and married after less than 8½. So it's not entirely out of the question.
Still, I think what she was asking was not a promise that he would with certainty marry her, but a discussion of what issues remained to be resolved, and a promise that if all such issues were resolved satisfactorily he would be willing to marry her.
Time that should be spent building a relationship being used to play often means when the 7th inning stretch comes one of the two has taken their ball and bat to look for a new field to play in
That way you never have to get to know the fine points of the game, or what the other player may have really been capable of
Because they are running out of normal people.
I have to wonder about a man so self-important to think that his personal situation is worth a press conference.
Well, let's be fair. He's part of a breakfast panel discussion called "What Men Don't Like to Talk About".
Bwaha! I am imagining a very silent breakfast meeting. Most men I know, when they don't want to talk about something, do not make a sound...
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