[Hildy]

Are you saying that after six months you know someone well enough to get married? Uh uh.

[Pan_Yans Wife]

My husband and I dated and lived together for two and a half years, before we married. However, I knew that I could marry him, within the first three months, and I would have, if he had asked me then. Instead, we waited, until later.

We have been married for seven years, now. Having said all of that, I do NOT recommend cohabitation! And, I do not know if I would do everything the same as I did back then.

[supercat]

Are you saying that after six months you know someone well enough to get married? Uh uh.

Well, I got engaged after 4 and married after less than 8½. So it's not entirely out of the question.

Still, I think what she was asking was not a promise that he would with certainty marry her, but a discussion of what issues remained to be resolved, and a promise that if all such issues were resolved satisfactorily he would be willing to marry her.

[hellinahandcart]

Are you saying that after six months you know someone well enough to get married? Uh uh.

No, but if a man doesn't know if the potential for marriage is there or not after six months of *dating* (not just being aquainted), he's taking indecisiveness to an extreme.

Like I said, he must think he's going to live for 200 years. If he keeps this pace up, he'll have to.

[avenir]

"Are you saying that after six months you know someone well enough to get married? Uh uh."

Not necessarily. But again, what is the guy playing at when he "dates" a woman for six months and seems confounded by her expectation of the possibility of marriage? If he wants sexless companionship then he needs to make friendships with women, which don't include romantic evenings of wining and dining.

That's called courtship.