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Everything Personal:Children Born of Rape or Incest
Touchstone Magazine ^ | January/February 2003 | Russell E. Saltzman

Posted on 02/26/2003 1:04:55 PM PST by Remedy

I belong to an on-line support group (me, in a sup-port group, there’s a picture) composed of adult children born of rape or incest. There are more of us in the former category than the latter. Jennifer is our webmistress, organizer, facilitator, coach, head nanny, chief nag (though very nice about it), and the child of a violent rape. Mostly, I lurk. But for some in the group, I am a kind of unofficial chaplain and sometime pastoral advisor. There are children born before Roe v. Wade as well as children born after Roe v. Wade. The handles adopted by some in the group are evocative: "former fetus," "unawares angel," names like that.

We tell stories about how we found out about our birth circumstances, what that knowledge has meant. For every one of us, it was a discovery. No one was raised knowing the circumstances of his birth, but all of us are adoptees who simply wanted to know our origins for medical reasons or just to gain a more complete personal sense of identity. Finding we were children of rape was an incidental outcome, but always a fundamental shock. The biographical fact of adoption, frequently problematic in its own way, can become impossibly complicated with that extra layer of detail squatting on top of it. My conception and birth were the product of stepsibling incest.

If you want a genuine encounter with Angst 101–all the old "why am I here?" questions with none of the sophomoric abstractions attached–our chat room positively wallows in it, and for understandable reasons. These are ordinary people, after all, fairly attuned to the ordinary pulses of good and evil in this world, trying to come to grips with how their life can be the result of something that was so horrifically bad for someone else. Still, as I always ask when that question arises, cannot a child born of rape be an instance of God working good from evil, a lesson that Joseph learned and then taught to his brothers?

We get into discussions about our discussions with pro-choice advocates. There isn’t one of us who hasn’t been told by a pro-choice supporter that support for abortion, especially in those hard cases like rape, is, of course, "nothing personal." I’m sure the delegates at the Presbyterian Church (USA) meeting in Columbus, Ohio, late last June would say the same thing. The PCUSA general assembly voted 394 to 112 in support of an unrestricted right to abortion, at least until such time as the fetus can survive outside the womb. Thereafter, abortion should be done only to preserve the life of the mother, to "avoid fetal suffering," or in cases of rape and incest.

The Presbyterians have adopted a position similar to that of the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America, and like the ELCA, PCUSA’s medical benefits plan for clergy and church workers regards an elective abortion as a reimbursable medical expense. There is no reimbursement for an elective nose job, even if your nose is big enough to qualify as a county in Rhode Island, but that’s just policy, nothing personal. (I am a pastor in the ELCA, but I dropped out of the health plan years ago over its support for abortion.)

Back to Angst 101. Everyone deals with issues of birth and origin–well, they do if they are conscious and sentient. The perilous biologic journey of sperm and egg from conception to zygote to blastocyst to embryo to fetus is just so much random chance that particular questions about the particularity that you represent are inevitable. If somebody had a headache that night, you wouldn’t be here. If the 64-some cells that formed the blastocyst had failed to travel the fallopian tubes, you wouldn’t be here. If the blastocyst had failed to implant itself on the uterine wall, you wouldn’t be here. There are a thousand natural reasons why you should not be here, and the chances of your being here at all are unutterably impossible.

The chances of pregnancy from rape are even chancier. Actual pregnancies resulting from reported rapes are ridiculously miniscule, point-oh-oh-oh-something per thousand. But it is always somebody’s bad luck when they do happen and the "ifs" roll on. If she had stayed out of the parking lot that night; if she had been more aware of her surroundings; if the guy she met hadn’t been a twisted creep; if her stepbrother hadn’t forced her on the sofa. If.

Absent a creator–absent God, the Father almighty, maker of heaven and earth–your conception and birth are exactly that, dumb blind chance. Yet we say that God, the Father almighty, maker of heaven and earth, made you. And me. And a very talented, warm-hearted woman named Jennifer, with two sweet kids of her own. Her body itself, and my body, aging though it is, carries a living and breathing rebuke to those who regard human life as a matter of convenience. Against all appearances to the contrary, imagine this: God, the Father almighty, maker of heaven and earth, made her, made me, made you. It is more personal than the Presbyterians or the Lutherans will admit.

Russell E. Saltzman is pastor of Ruskin Heights Lutheran Church, Kansas City, Missouri, and editor of the independent Lutheran publication Forum Letter. This is reprinted with permission from the August 2002 Forum Letter, and is copyright 2002 by the American Lutheran Publicity Bureau.


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KEYWORDS: abortion; incest; rape
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To: SarahW
I would never give a genetic edge to the strategy of rape.

I read somewhere on a recent thread that up to 5%(?) of all eastern Europeans can trace their lineage back to Genghis Khan. Another tidbit that I can dimly recall has to do with Caesar during his campaigns in Gaul - some sort of Latin chant about here comes Caesar, ladies beware, he's got the biggest you-know-what, and so on.

The one thing the enemies of Western heritage don't understand is that we are ALL descendents of survivors of rape, warfare, plague and general mass mayhem.

61 posted on 03/03/2003 10:52:39 AM PST by Snerfling
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To: BibChr; Snerfling; babygene; SarahW
"I say embrace both victims with compassion. I say care about them both. I say protect them both. I say neither victim is really helped by being turned into a vitimizer."

Absolutely, and as Snerfling said so eloquently, we are ALL products of rape at some point in our long lineage....babygene and SarahW included.

62 posted on 03/03/2003 11:15:28 AM PST by Artist
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To: Artist
With respect, I do not live in the time of Ghengis Khan.

And I do not have to allow the strategy of rape to succeed.
My husband will not be cuckholded by a criminal, and I will not permit my blood and sinews to be hijacked, preventing me from devoting my limited resources to children of my marriage.

And today, a rapist is not likely to be some conquering viking, but a cretinous genetically inferior sociopath. Sorry, he won't win, nor will his genes.
63 posted on 03/03/2003 12:03:16 PM PST by SarahW
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To: SarahW
"With respect, I do not live in the time of Ghengis Khan."

Of course you don't, but untold numbers of women in your family tree that goes back to the beginning of time have been raped. If they hadn't been, YOU wouldn't be here....and you're certain to have some "cretinous genetically inferior sociopath" genes of your own. We all do.

64 posted on 03/03/2003 12:21:58 PM PST by Artist
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To: SarahW
but a cretinous genetically inferior sociopath.

Your knowledge of genetics is analogous to an astrologer's knowledge of astrophysics. But I suppose you are not alone among those duped by PBS-level junk science.

Genetic inferiority has nothing to do with criminal behavior. Genetic inferiority has to do with birth defects and congenital diseases. I know plenty of fine, upstanding people who have inferior genes. I have diabetic, epileptic, and cancerous friends, as well as some with Down's syndrome and other genetic anomolies. None of them are rapists or criminals.

On the other hand, many criminals are stronger and smarter than average. They in fact have superior genes.

Genetic quality is irrelevant with regard to criminal behavior. Educate yourself or shut your ignorant, bigoted mouth.

65 posted on 03/03/2003 12:37:13 PM PST by hopespringseternal
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To: Remedy
St. Paul misspoke..."Government derives its moral authority from God" I doubt that it was ever true, but it certainly isn't true today or in recent history.

To suggest the contrary, would be to suggest that Hitler had authority from god to do his evil deeds. And that Sodamm Insane has such moral authority. Or that the SCOUS has moral athority to aprove abortions, and make "choice" the law of the land.

I think not! To be sure, many if not most governments derive their authority from the evil one, not God.
66 posted on 03/03/2003 1:04:37 PM PST by babygene (Viable after 87 trimesters)
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To: babygene
St. Paul misspoke..."Government derives its moral authority from God" I doubt that it was ever true, but it certainly isn't true today or in recent history.

You can not believe Paul to be an apostle and attribute scripture to a mistake. It is not Paul you pass judgement on, but God. Paul spoke those words while Rome was persecuting Christians and engaged in a war against God. Are you that ignorant?

Look at Hitler's demise, and see what comes of Hussein before you are so quick to condemn the Almighty for the sins of man. Or do you suppose you understand all the ends of God?

67 posted on 03/03/2003 1:51:23 PM PST by hopespringseternal
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To: hopespringseternal
"St. Paul misspoke"

Perhaps he didn't misspeak... Perhaps you misunderstand.
68 posted on 03/03/2003 2:47:50 PM PST by babygene (Viable after 87 trimesters)
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To: hopespringseternal
"before you are so quick to condemn the Almighty for the sins of man."

You know, you are dishonest... What gives you the right to put words in someone's mouth. I gave credit to satan for the evil deeds of man, not God.

You are the one who attributes the evil of governments to God... and you use the preaching of St. Paul to make your case.

Shame on you.
69 posted on 03/03/2003 2:59:26 PM PST by babygene (Viable after 87 trimesters)
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To: hopespringseternal
" You can not believe Paul to be an apostle and attribute scripture to a mistake."

So you don't believe an apostle could make a mistake?

Would you consider it a mistake when Peter denied Christ 3 times? Well, so much for your opinion... What a looser.
70 posted on 03/03/2003 3:05:53 PM PST by babygene (Viable after 87 trimesters)
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To: hopespringseternal
You are wrong, but suit yourself should the occasion arise.
I won't reward rape as a reproductive strategy.
71 posted on 03/03/2003 3:53:43 PM PST by SarahW
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To: SarahW; Artist

Is your view derived from or similar to the following:

Randy Thornhill - The MIT Press and Craig Palmer use evolutionary biology to explain the causes of rape and to recommend new approaches to its prevention. According to Thornhill and Palmer, evolved adaptation of some sort gives rise to rape; the main evolutionary question is whether rape is an adaptation itself or a by-product of other adaptations. Thornhill and Palmer address, and claim to demolish scientifically, many myths about rape bred by social science theory over the past 25 years. The popular contention that rapists are not motivated by sexual desire is, they argue, scientifically inaccurate. The book also includes a useful summary of evolutionary theory and a comparison of evolutionary biology's and social science's explanations of human behavior. A new preface is available here.

"This is a courageous, intelligent, and eye-opening book with a noble goal--to understand and eliminate a loathsome crime. Armed with logic and copious data, Thornhill and Palmer will force many intellectuals to decide which they value more: established dogma and ideology, or the welfare of real women in the real world."
-- Steven Pinker, Professor of Psychology, Massachusetts Institute of Technology, and author of How the Mind Works and Words and Rules

72 posted on 03/03/2003 4:39:02 PM PST by Remedy
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To: babygene


Killing has to be done in war, but you don't believe in it? Mass murderers can't be executed, but you can kill a drug dealer for selling drugs, or kill an intruder or the unborn, if they're perceived as a threat?

 

 

73 posted on 03/03/2003 5:14:27 PM PST by Remedy
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To: Remedy
" Killing has to be done in war, but you don't believe in it? Mass murderers can't be executed, but you can kill a drug dealer for selling drugs, or kill an intruder or the unborn, if they're perceived as a threat? "

Yes, self defense is the thread that runs through all of the five posts (points).

There are two positions on war, offencive and defensive and, of course, capatol punishment is a punishment not self defense. Self defense is involved in all of the rest...

74 posted on 03/03/2003 5:58:35 PM PST by babygene (Viable after 87 trimesters)
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To: SarahW
Sarah,

People like Hopespringseternal & Remedy are the reason that we still have legal abortion in this country. Abortion in the treatment of a rape victim are way outside the por-life position. As is abortion because of risks to the mothers health.

For them to try to couple it, does great dammage to the pro-life movement. You can be sure that there will never be laws that prohiblt abortion as long as idiots like this make no provisions for rape or the life of the mother. I think they know this, and that is their intent.
75 posted on 03/03/2003 6:18:50 PM PST by babygene (Viable after 87 trimesters)
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To: babygene
I hope you understand, I do not believe in killing... Even in war or capitol punishment. However I would take this burden on myself to protect my family. I would not look back for an instant. ...I would also take the life of a drug dealer who sold drugs to my grandkids...

Soooo....You don't believe in killing in war or capital punishment.....but you would approve of the killing of your grandchild or a drug dealer? You seem to be talking out of both sides of your mouth at the same time.

76 posted on 03/03/2003 8:00:59 PM PST by Remember Ruby Ridge (Abortion should NEVER be an option)
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To: Remember Ruby Ridge
You should read all of my posts...

I believe one has the right to defend one's self and their family. War if you are defending your nation. Drug dealers because they are killing your kids. capital punisument is about revenge... BAD!

And I don't aprove of "killing" drug dealers... I aprove of me protecting my family.
77 posted on 03/03/2003 8:11:34 PM PST by babygene (Viable after 87 trimesters)
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To: babygene
A person who has committed a crime so heinous that a death sentence is even contemplated, if convicted, has proven endangerment to members of the society. Such an person when put to death over their crime(s) falls under the framework of 'society's self defense', therefore, by your reasoning, such an criminal is an excellent case for death sentence but you prefer to apply mercy and spare such an one's life. Do you follow that so far?
78 posted on 03/03/2003 8:37:37 PM PST by MHGinTN (If you can read this, you've had life support from someone. Promote Life Support for others.)
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To: Remedy
Good article.
79 posted on 03/03/2003 8:51:46 PM PST by waterstraat
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To: MHGinTN
I follow what you are saying, but I do not agree for several reasons.

First, if the person is in prison for the rest of his or her life, the person is not a risk to society at large.

Second, as good as our justice system is, there is enough corruption that we can't be sure someone is really guilty. In case after case, people who are facing death are released because of DNA evidence and such. Once the person is dead, this person can't be released. I've been on several juries, and the jury foreman on one. Believe me when I say, juries are a pathetic lot. Keep it in mind that 50% of the people in this country are below average intelligence - and that's pretty stupid. Most of them can't understand complex sentences.

If you are going to pot someone to death, they should be found guilty beyond ANY doubt. Not beyond reasonable doubt.



80 posted on 03/03/2003 11:14:57 PM PST by babygene (Viable after 87 trimesters)
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