Could it be that they ARE afraid of those with more than two brain cells to rub together?
I am what was commonly referred to as a "spit-fire" personality. Maureen O'Hara type not finding any John Waynes'.
When I look around I see a lot of men do go for the demure Tupperware party-type
(don't misunderstand, nothing wrong with demure or Tupperware)
What about the nesting instinct? Has no one thought that the man may have an unconscious desire to mate and live with a nesting female? Career women with employment drive are not generally as well suited to applying that drive within the less flashy 'home and hearth' context. The above posts read like women think men are beauty driven, or 'find me a dumb one I can dominate' driven. They might be unconsciously driven by 'find one that wants to share a nest and nestlings' driven. Looks are only one piece of the pie of contentment. Men want to nest, also. It's in their developmental and recent past ... a bot grows to his teens within the relationship to a woman maintaining a nest, nesting in one form or another. Denesting breeds more denested.
['Pawsing' now to hike up my asbestos coverings ... I'm a Leo, my paws have claws.]