Spiting their pretty faces

World Net Daily ^ | February 3, 2003 | Vox Day

[Happygal]

Just make sure the man you settle for can give you an orgasm.

I'd hate for you to die wondering!! ;-)

[Oberon]

Yes, Sam, she seems like quite a catch, doesn't she? There's got to be a single Freeper out there somewhere who's man enough to pay court to this woman.

In the social circles in which I run, however, all the men who are the marrying kind are, well, married.

[apackof2]

Oh please..............what a crude remark

[Happygal]

HOW you would know without trying him out first AMAZES me. But if you have a sure and tested virgin way of doing it, let me know. I KNOW how to (a) market it and (b) make us both a lot of money!!

I'm figuring, you are (a) lying or (b) learned the art of masturbation HEY FOLKS!!! It's only natural. And those who don't do it are either abusing kids or animals!!!!!!

[apackof2]

In the social circles in which I run, however, all the men who are the marrying kind are, well, married.

Well yes ,thats the problem.
I am beginning to think single men don't exist because nobody knows any!

[cyborg]

I'm serious! I was raised by a true Proverbs 31 wife. I guess my parents' cultures had a lot to do with it in the beginning and what they expected. However, as I watched my neighborhood friends get pregnant one by one, as young as FIFTEEN, I said to myself MOM AND DAD ARE RIGHT.

[Bloody Sam Roberts]

For through him, I have found a new way to live my life .. and a new understanding of God's purpose for me.

It is always so touching to see someone who has an understanding of the awesome gifts we receive everyday.

He's a keeper alright.

[apackof2]

Time to put down the ale and go to bed

[Happygal]

Why is a natural reaction crude?

Please, explain?

[Dan from Michigan]

And those who don't do it are either abusing kids or animals!!!!!!

That would be baaaaaaaaad.

[Terriergal]

the kind of man she wants is precisely the man who is smart enough to stay away from her.

I don't think so. I think she finds a guy that she THINKS is what she wants... and then he lusts her and leaves her... and she's left there hating men because she can't figure out how to be discriminating (it's so UN PC you know... and then you have to have standards!)

[SauronOfMordor]

He makes many good points but fails to mention those of us 30-something women with successfull careers, financial stability, education, better than decent looks, and no guy to snuggle (or other) with on a cold night.

In situations where the competition is landing the sales, it pays to study what the competition is doing, and why the customer is preferring the competition's products. It does no good to be outraged that the customer is an ass and the competition's product is not as good as yours -- the customer is the customer, and the smart seller figures out what the customer is looking for and delivers it

First and foremost, men want somebody they can trust not to shaft them the moment their backs are turned. A woman can be plain, can have much less education, etc, and still get a decent guy IF she can make him confident that she will be on his side, and will stand by him loyally thru bad times as well as good times.

Part of the handicap that successful women labor under is that they've developed a lot of self-esteem, a "can-do" attitude that whispers to them "I can get a better guy than the one I currently have". This gives many of them a low tolerence for hassle -- they don't think they HAVE to put up with anything from the guy. Well, in a successful relationship, both sides realize that nobody is perfect, and part of the deal is dealing with the imperfections and occasional bad moods of the other person

[Terriergal]

LOL!

[Happygal]

Are you going to ADOPT your conquisqudors?


Just wondering?

[Happygal]

Dan!

Don't piss me off.

[cyborg]

Well the first thing that came to my mind (reading this post) is I wonder if Christopher Reeve's wife cares if she can't get an orgasm now. I think that's all part of the mystery of the wedding night. Of course, I'd want to make sure my husband is sexually happy because a man's number one need in a marriage is a great sex life. That's what I've heard every christian therapist say. However, a marriage has to be based on things more than sex. We can sort these issues out in premarital counseling like pre-cana.

[hotpotato]

After having travelled extensively outside the sphere of "western" influence...? I know that I will never get re-married to a woman from the USA, or probably any other western country... Too crass, too crude. Too arrogant and blatantly selfish.

Didn't John Wayne Bobbit do that (marry a woman from a non-western country)? Watch out for those women in Venezuela.

You might also want to be aware that the practice of women severing men's penises appears to be well-known in Thailand, Korea, and the Philippines so go with caution (and maybe a steel jock strap). (for more info and not for the squeamish, see http://iupjournals.org/nwsa/nws8-3.html)

[Terriergal]

That's what a real woman does for her husband.

You mean she can't indulge in a little shooting up of virtual terrorists?

a la:
Ghost Recon
and
Splinter Cell

or
Combat Mission And then play it together with her husband and beat him at it?

Bummer... I'm such a bad wife...

[Terriergal]

And those who don't do it are either abusing kids or animals!!!!!!

I take it you're being facetious here? :-)

Hmm... I didn't get that kind of impression of cyborg...

[Diddle E. Squat]

OK, I'll admit upfront that I'm male, so with no hard bio clock my perspective is different, but is it really THAT bad? From my perspective, there are plenty of wonderful women still out there, and I just find it hard to believe that there isn't a somewhat equal supply of good men. And there is certainly no reason to "settle", chemistry does matter(reference the Eagles "Lyin' eyes"). But are ya'll looking in the right places, and willing to look in those right places?

These threads always remind me of a former girlfriend, in her mid-30's, brilliant, beautiful, successful professional, set for life, and a good Christian. However I don't think she's dated anyone seriously for a couple of years now, complaining that there just aren't any good men where she lives. Yes, it is a relatively small city, but she's within a 1-2 hours drive of 4 cities with 15 million people! But she refuses to look in those cities, declaring that if it is God's will for her to marry, he'll bring someone into her life. Now I have all the faith in the world in God, but he gives us a brain to use and make wise decisions. If the pickin's are slim, you've got to go to a field that's bountiful.

That's not always easy, and in fact can be quite frightening for some women. I'd venture to guess that more than one has hid behind "there just aren't any good men around here" to avoid confronting insecurities and leaving the comfort zone. But trust me, for most there are good matches out there(yes, even for those immediately reacting "but I'm probably the exception), I've introduced and married off too many couples to think otherwise(and I'm continually amazed at some of the pairings the Good Lord has arranged!) A wise man is impressed with a woman who is willing to take a risk for something she values, it is a sign that she will also go to great lengths to care for her children and husband.

That doesn't mean that every searching single gal should pick up and move to New York or LA, but I've seen too many nice women continue to just sit around their small circle and complain, never making progress. If the chemistry can't be found within that circle, look outside the circle. I know, it is easy to say, and that can be defined in different ways, but I've seen it work. Plus there is the very real danger that continuing the same pattern within that small circle will instill a negative and self-concerning attitude that starts to consume oneself. Which is the sad irony, because when it comes to settling down, guys notice attitude more than anything else.

So hang in there and don't give up. It takes faith, and there will always be some doubt until that right person 'clicks'. But then you are there.