That email you provided us was breathless in tone, and included phraseology that looks nothing less than snide.
I realize that in some families people talk like that in all sincerity, and nothing negative could be inferred, but given your headlong rush to confer with the internet, I tend to doubt it.
Oh well, I'll leave you to your devices. Hope everything works out for the girl - she needs comfort and compassion regardless of what she decides.
I dearly love my niece and will continue to do so regardless of what transpires. It is not my intention to "gossip" or exploit her terrible dilemma. I needed ideas quickly, and this was the only place I could think of where I could get quick and compassionate ideas anonymously.
CP forgot a Clymer alert.
Take yor dribble to another thread. Folks are trying to help here