[Lizavetta]

Shacking up doesn't work for many because the attitude going into it is "let's see if it works", and "I can leave if it ______ (fill in the blank)". When one makes the commitment of marriage, there's more of a desire (or at least there used to be) to find a way to make it work.

[Willie Green]

Shacking up doesn't work for many because the attitude going into it is "let's see if it works", and "I can leave if it ______ (fill in the blank)".

Yep, many guys view it as an economical way to get some nookie until someone "better" comes along. Don't have to shell out all that $$$ to take a girl out on a date first. Of course, things DO get a little awkward when one tries to bring a date back to the apartment.

Not that I have any personal experience in this matter,
just an observation based on old college acquaintences who did.

[yendu bwam]

Shacking up doesn't work for many because the attitude going into it is "let's see if it works", and "I can leave if it ______ (fill in the blank)". When one makes the commitment of marriage, there's more of a desire (or at least there used to be) to find a way to make it work.

Bingo! Far more who shack up first have failed marriages than those who do not. Those who shack up tend to devalue marriage for themselves.