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The Buddy System: Sex in High School and College: What's Love Got To Do With It?
The Washington Post ^ | Jan. 19, 2003 | Laura Sessions Stepp

Posted on 01/18/2003 10:23:40 PM PST by tellw

EXCERPT:

By today's standards, the high school girl from Montgomery County was a slow starter when it came to sex, having reached ninth grade before she kissed a guy. She just couldn't see how to fit a boy into heavy loads of honors homework, soccer matches and baby-sitting....

By 11th grade, she had found the answer: "buddysex," or sexual encounters with friends, in this case a half-dozen private-school boys, no strings attached...

"September through December is a blur," she recalls as winter sunlight glints off her shoulder-length blond hair and warms her Cafe Mocha. "Let's see, I hooked up with . . . hmmm, I'll call him Rob. Then Rob introduced me to Paul. Then there was Colin, and B.T., and Brad, and Steve. I was having so much fun I didn't even think of having a serious relationship. There was no romance. None."

... In earlier decades this girl and others like her might have been shunned, but no longer. For one thing, adolescents no longer see oral sex as sex.

(Excerpt) Read more at washingtonpost.com ...


TOPICS: Culture/Society; Extended News
KEYWORDS: children; givingalewinsky; monicaandbill; sex; teens
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To: tellw
In earlier decades this girl and others like her might have been shunned, but no longer.

They are still shunned, if I ever find out they have led such a lifestyle.

61 posted on 01/19/2003 11:29:40 AM PST by Mr. Jeeves
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To: Yakboy
In a few years, are they suitable material for a marraige?

I don't disagree with you but let me ask you this.
Do you believe that no one is cabaple of having thier attitudes towards sex change? This particular girl included?
How can you say with absolute certainty that she will be unsuitable for marriage when the time comes?
How can it be that she will never be worthy of trust? That call is up to her prospective husband...him alone.

62 posted on 01/19/2003 11:35:21 AM PST by Bloody Sam Roberts (®)
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To: Karsus
What they need is a good... Nevermind...

Tongue lashing?

63 posted on 01/19/2003 11:38:23 AM PST by Bloody Sam Roberts (®)
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To: Bloody Sam Roberts
In response to your question, the article answers it to a certain degree:

"If they don't date, how will they learn the skills of discernment, empathy and patience that keep a marriage going?"

"A series of fleeting liaisons will not help those traits," Longmore says. "That's why we want them to have dates, so when they get married they'll have them. But if all they're doing is screwing, forget it."

64 posted on 01/19/2003 1:36:57 PM PST by KantianBurke (Irrespective of the feminazi mindset of women today, this country is still #1)
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To: LWalk18
what do their parents think?

This is a test. Please identify the assumption imbedded in your question. :)

65 posted on 01/19/2003 4:55:44 PM PST by NativeNewYorker (Freepin' Jew Boy)
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To: Karsus
KneeJerk cliche alert! Typical social liberal acting amorally superior. You think AIDS is a veneral disease???

Pray for GW and the Troops

66 posted on 01/19/2003 5:48:16 PM PST by bray
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To: bray
I asked you that because your previous post seems to indicate that you thought is was OK for the goverment to control what consenting adults do in their bedrooms.

What would you do if they banned your religion?
67 posted on 01/19/2003 6:21:28 PM PST by Karsus (TrueFacts=GOOD, GoodFacts=BAD)
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To: NativeNewYorker
bump
68 posted on 01/20/2003 10:52:43 AM PST by KantianBurke (let them whore around. the foolish should suffer for their folly)
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To: ConsistentLibertarian
well sure if the spouses are gay... sheesh :)
69 posted on 01/20/2003 10:57:14 AM PST by Khepera (tag... your it!)
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To: rmlew
I seem to remember reading this, that gonorrhea of the throat is the new 'epidemic'.

I read these articles with girls talking about sex with this guy or that, oral sex with this guy or that, being spread around like a plate of canapes.....it makes me sad that young women like this don't seem to realize how cheap they've become. They call it freedom and no strings, but to me it looks like tawdriness. No requirements to be treated with respect or dignity, no obligations on the man's part. They remind me of my rutting goats out in the back yard. The sexual revolution, in my opinion, has made women behave like the men that were originally complained about. Now the girls are just like them. And they're proud of it.

70 posted on 01/20/2003 11:12:41 AM PST by Lizavetta
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To: LWalk18
I agree, for the most part this article does not describe the norm. Maybe this is how it works in liberal meccas in New England and the California coast, but I've never seen/heard anything like this in high school or college.
71 posted on 01/20/2003 11:19:16 AM PST by Future Snake Eater
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To: tellw
Isn't it nice to know that the "Girls Gone Wild" production company will never run out of material...

</sarcasm>

72 posted on 01/20/2003 11:33:26 AM PST by Redcloak (Tag, you're it!)
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To: tellw
For one thing, adolescents no longer see oral sex as sex.

I don't believe this for one minute. They may tell you it's not sex, but everyone including them knows that it is. This runs along the same lines as a "marriage certificate being just a piece of paper", when we all know that avoiding that commitment just underscores that fact that YOU KNOW it's a commitment.

73 posted on 01/20/2003 5:27:00 PM PST by Lizavetta
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To: Lizavetta
bump
74 posted on 01/21/2003 6:48:26 AM PST by KantianBurke (How about you keep ur religious dictates to yourself and bugger off?)
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