The Buddy System: Sex in High School and College: What's Love Got To Do With It?

The Washington Post ^ | Jan. 19, 2003 | Laura Sessions Stepp

[tellw]

EXCERPT:

By today's standards, the high school girl from Montgomery County was a slow starter when it came to sex, having reached ninth grade before she kissed a guy. She just couldn't see how to fit a boy into heavy loads of honors homework, soccer matches and baby-sitting....

By 11th grade, she had found the answer: "buddysex," or sexual encounters with friends, in this case a half-dozen private-school boys, no strings attached...

"September through December is a blur," she recalls as winter sunlight glints off her shoulder-length blond hair and warms her Cafe Mocha. "Let's see, I hooked up with . . . hmmm, I'll call him Rob. Then Rob introduced me to Paul. Then there was Colin, and B.T., and Brad, and Steve. I was having so much fun I didn't even think of having a serious relationship. There was no romance. None."

... In earlier decades this girl and others like her might have been shunned, but no longer. For one thing, adolescents no longer see oral sex as sex.

[tellw]

Thank you, President Bill Clinton, for teaching a generation of kids that oral sex is not sex. (/sarcasm).

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[LiteKeeper]

read later

[Timesink]

Slut.

[ikka]

This is extraordinarily disturbing. Anyone who has read Aldous Huxley's "Brave New World" will certainly see the parallels.

[College Repub]

How is it disturbing?

[ConsistentLibertarian]

"Many girls don't have the time or the energy required for an intense relationship right now [...] But they possess enormous sexual energy and believe they have every right to enjoy it in whatever form they choose."

Word.

[Centurion2000]

Since hooking up need not involve intercourse, they don't have to worry about pregnancy. Oral sex is an acceptable alternative and young women absolutely don't consider it sex.

"If we did, we'd be having sex all the time. We still have a shred of self-respect," one freshman says.

WTF .......

[isthisnickcool]

Note to self: Invest $$$ in companies that have or are working on Herpes treatments.

[LWalk18]

Articles like this only make things worse. They interview a few teenagers and blow it up into a major trend. In reality, teen sexual activity is declining. A article about teen virgins would not fit the doom and gloom philosophy of the media.

[ConsistentLibertarian]

They're not swayed by Clinton. They're empowered with information: oral sex is as good as abstinence, so far as pregnancy is concerned, and a heck of a lot more fun.

[ConsistentLibertarian]

"In reality, teen sexual activity is declining."

I can understand if that's been your personal experience, but in general, I don't think it's true.

[Drango]

LOL...

SKANK

[LWalk18]

I've been out of high school six years; I doubt it is a whole lot more than when I was there. Yes plenty of people were having sex, but those who decided to wait didn't feel ostrasized either.

I can't get over the girls allowing their picture to be put in the article, advertising how they give oral sex out like candy. What were they thinking, better yet what do their parents think?

[Karsus]

Yep! Because this NEVER happend when we were in highschool...

[rwfromkansas]

My fellow collegian, how is it NOT disturbing?

[rwfromkansas]

I think Newsweek or something like that did a story on the "new virgin" trend in early December.

[Karsus]

Could this have anything to do with the fact that puberty is occuring much earlier now then it did 20 years ago?

[ConsistentLibertarian]

"how is it NOT disturbing?"

Suppose you're a young guy who enjoys a lot of oral sex but doesn't have the energy right now for a serious relationship.

[Karsus]

I wonder how long it take for the "Oral sex should result in those involved being execuited by the state" crowd shows up?

:-)