"I am personally in a state of despair."
"I'm very depressed." Which is all you really need to know. To professional victims like Lani Silver, feelings trump logic, decency, reason, common sense, and any sort of realistic view of human history or nature. People like this believe the entire human race has to act as their own personal support group.
Can you imagine the sort of man that someone like Ms. Silver would be attracted to (if she's attracted to men at all).
The guy would have to be a wimpering, simpering, ninny who would be challenged by lifting 35 lbs or climbing two flights of stairs.