Whatever it is, it's not the same as being "too good" which is the line this 40+ bachelor always got when putting my heart on the line for a girl. I'm also still trying to figure out why they get to cry while *I'm* getting rejected but I'm not supposed to cry myself.
Sounds like you have gotten what I refer to simply as "The Speech". It starts with "You're a nice guy, BUT..." I don't even bother listening to the rest, as it's usually just filler. The "BUT" tells me all I need to know.