Posted on 01/03/2003 7:50:23 AM PST by TroutStalker
Edited on 04/22/2004 11:47:49 PM PDT by Jim Robinson. [history]
Anyone who has ever struggled to find a house to buy should intuitively understand the difficulties faced by the legions of accomplished, educated, 30ish women currently roaming society in search of a husband. They are the stuff of mass entertainment now, these handsome, quick-witted graduates of higher education. On TV, they're the saucy females of "Sex and the City" and "Will & Grace." They surface in fiction as lovelorn Bridget Jones and the hapless heroines of Pam Houston's best-selling short stories.
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Sounds like you have gotten what I refer to simply as "The Speech". It starts with "You're a nice guy, BUT..." I don't even bother listening to the rest, as it's usually just filler. The "BUT" tells me all I need to know.
LOL! My response to Valentine's Day anymore is "Bah, humbug". I've wasted a small fortune on chocolate on this nightmare, and slaughtered Lord knows how many roses. At least I've learned not to eat the chocolate myself--I like chocolate too much and I would be as big as a house.
To extend the analogy of the book review, she's like a house too long on the market? Actually I don't think this is fair. Such women may not be psychos, etc., but only victims of feminist propaganda who realize too late that they really do want marriage and family.
Sadly, one's late 30s are not a good time to start the process.
Conservative women should take their cue from Margaret Thatcher: marriage and family first, career later.
The last couple of generations of men have grown up largely inculcated with the feminist notion that women should be self-supporting --or, at least, capable of financial independence. If these men ever do decide to marry, they expect their wives to have a career. Children, if produced, are of course to be warehoused in day-care, rather than being cared for at home by a loving full-time mother.
I'm not saying this attitude is universal among gen-X and -Y men, but it's common enough to wreak havoc with traditional family life, and to further diminish a woman's chances of finding a mate willing to assume to mantle of traditional husband and provider, while she 'nests.'
I resent that statement. Outside of a Hollywood movie, the average Vietnam Vet is just like any other man his age and certainly not overwhelmed with trauma and anger.
Viet Nam vet.
Been married for 32 years. We have never made a big decision without discussing it first, and both agreeing on it. Although I think the real secret is we have separate checking accounts. She balances hers to the penny every month, and I just kind of keep track of my balance.
He totally blew it. He should have picked Brooke. Brooke is not a bimbo -- she's just young. And she strikes me as a much more honest, old-fashioned, down-home girl than the other one. (My wife says the same... she thinks he's an idiot for not picking Brooke.)
BTW... why the "blond" crack? Are you prejudiced against people whose ancestors got trapped between the glaciers, thousands of years ago? Why is it acceptable to say "blond bimbo", but not "brunette bimbo" or "black bimbo"?
Some of the good ones DO look like centerfolds, and they're STILL single.
For the men, being a "nice guy" often cancels out the advantages of height and good looks, and renders good moral character irrelevant as well. Women have the idea (sometimes right, often terribly wrong) that nice guys aren't strong, real men.
For a woman, her good looks may be her downfall: they elevate her perception of the type of man she thinks she can attract, so she'll hold out for more money, height, "coolness" (which is often inversely proportional to character), education, status, etc, than an average woman. But, alas, there aren't anywhere near enough tall, handsome multimillionaires to go around, compared to the vast number of women who think (rightly or wrongly) that they can attract one.
Fortunately, I met a woman who was smart, beautiful, AND realistic, and thus I at last escaped from the singleness trap. (Had to be from God.) But many of the women who rejected me, are still alone, and the guys they might have once been able to land, either married someone else or are now targeting a younger age bracket.
I'm aware of a couple of his ex-girlfriends who were quite beautiful and really gave him cr@p.......because they could get a away with it for a while. Hubby finally realized what was going on and got sick of their "I'm entitled to treat you like cr@p and your're required to spend lots of money on me" attitude. As he told them when he broke up with them, "Darlin' there's lots prettier girls than you, and you certainly aren't good-looking enough for me to put up with your sh*t!"
Therefore, it's YOUR fault that she treats you like cr@p. See how this works, guys?
Millions of young women are being so misled and propagandized by our popular culture today that they don't even believe that they actually have a clock. By the time they discover the clock is quite real, it's often too late. "60 minutes" actually did a piece on this very subject a short while back.
Women and men who do the same work, for the same hours, with the same education and seniority, get paid almost exactly the same (the difference is >2%). This is well documented, you can go check it out for yourself if you wish. The old feminist chant of "59 cents on the dollar" (now revised to "76 cents on the dollar") is, and always has been, a lie-of-ommission because it ignores the fact that men, on the average, work longer hours and do more difficult and dangerous jobs.
Meanwhile, as she points out, men have a big pool of available fascinating women to choose from. Particularly true in big cities
Fascinating women in the big cities? Ha! WHERE? Not in Lost Angeles. Oh, perhaps some of these women are interesting from a fornicator's perspective... But a single, old-fashioned, abstaining-til-marriage guy will find the pickings very, very slim. I found my wife elsewhere.
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