A Woman's Testimony of Incest and Abortion (my title)

ProLife InfoNet ^ | 13 Dec 02 | Denise Kalasky

[Mr. Silverback]

Abortion: The Great Incest Cover-Up ... A Young Mother's Story by Denise Kalasky

[ProLifeInfo.org Note: Excerpted from "Victims and Victors: Speaking Out About their Pregnancies, Abortions, and Children Resulting from Sexual Assault." Copyright 2000, David C. Reardon, Julie Makimaa, and Amy Sobie.]

I was a victim of incest, one of the "hard cases" for abortion. I was raped by my father when I was 15 years old. It was not the first time, nor would it be the last. However, this time, I became pregnant.

One night, I became very sick and my parents took me to the hospital. I believe now that they knew I was pregnant since they took me to a different hospital than normal. The emergency room doctor discovered that, along with a very bad case of the flu, I was 19 weeks pregnant.

My father flew into a rage, accusing me of all sorts of things, and demanding I have an abortion. The doctor informed me that I was pregnant and asked me what I wanted. I had seen the "Silent Scream" and knew that abortion was murder. In spite of the pain and guilt I felt, knowing who the father of the baby was, it was far better to have a baby than the alternative to kill it. I refused to have an abortion.

My father flew into an uncontrollable rage and demanded that I consent to the abortion, or that the doctor do it with or without my permission. The doctor refused because of my wishes. My father demanded that an abortionist be found regardless of the cost.

Within one hour, this man arrived at the hospital, talked with my parents and decided to do the abortion, without speaking to me. I refused and tried to get off the examining table. He then asked three nurses to hold me while he strapped me to the bed and injected me with a muscle relaxant to keep me from struggling while he prepared to kill my baby.

I continued to scream that I didn't want an abortion. He told me, "Shut up and quit that yelling!" Eventually, I was placed under general anesthesia and my child was brutally killed.

I was told that an abortion would solve my problem, when it was never really the problem in the first place. I was told, "Your parents know what's best," when they obviously were only concerned about their own reputations. I was told, "You made the right decision," when I was never given a choice. More important, where was my baby's choice?

I grieve every day for my daughter. I have struggled to forget the abuse and the abortion. I can do neither. All I think of is, "I should have done more, fought more, struggled more for the life of my child."

My situation may not be common, but I know it's not unique either. The emotions and problems I've had to deal with as a result of my abortion are common. The trauma of the rape and abuse were only intensified by the abortion. The guilt of knowing my baby is dead is something I will have to live with for the rest of my life.

I was violated and betrayed over and over by my father, who God created to love and protect me. I was humiliated, hurt, and violated again by the abortionist.

I have talked with "pro-lifers" who consider my abortion acceptable, under the circumstances. I want to tell people, "If you really want to be compassionate, give this mother the opportunity to choose life for her child. If you really love the mothers who have been victimized, don't let them be exploited again by someone who will make a profit from their dead child a memory that will haunt them for the rest of their lives."

The next time you hear of the "hard cases," please remind people that every crisis pregnancy is difficult for the mother. If you believe these cases are hard, you're correct they are extremely hard for the mother. But if you choose abortion, it's an IMPOSSIBLE situation for the baby.

The mom needs love, support and understanding, not the pain of allowing herself to be violated again in order to kill her child. Regardless of the circumstances, regardless of the pain involved, that helpless, innocent child has no voice, no defense, and no chance, unless we offer real love and real compassion to the mother.

My abortion was over five years ago. God is still healing me, but it has been a difficult fight. Although I'm actively pro-life, very few people know my story. It's still very difficult to share with people.

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." (Psalm 147:3) God bless you!

[CAPPSMADNESS]

"...I do not believe this story. Nurses in hospitals do not hold people down while abortions are performed against their will. And doctors with admitting privileges at hospitals do not perform abortions against a person's will. This story simply is not true...."

As someone who works in an E.D. - this story has to be bogus, no doctor would put his license on the line for a parent in this situation. I cannot believe that there is an E.D. nurse alive that would hold a woman down during a forced abortion. And no hospital administrator wants the "added cost and publicity" of such a potentially nasty lawsuit.

[George W. Bush]

This story simply is not true.

Where are the lawsuits? Where are the criminal charges? In many states, this abortion would be a murder.

I don't buy it.

But I oppose all abortions and consider the "hard cases" to be primarily a literary device created by the abortion industry.

[Scupoli]

In many states, this abortion would be a murder

WHERE? Abortion is a federally protected right. This is an unemancipated minor at the legal mercy of her parents. They most assuredly can do this and get away with it if they can find an unethical doctor to go along with it. That doesn't seem too difficult. It's income in his pocket and in the hospital's.

But I oppose all abortions and consider the "hard cases" to be primarily a literary device created by the abortion industry.

So rape and incest victims never get pregnant? I have a bridge to sell you.

[CAPPSMADNESS]

"I have a nursing background. I assure you that this could be true. Children have no options"

They do indeed have options. a fifteen y/o girl has the right to refuse any invasive procedure in an emergency room situation. This scenario would have raised red flags all over the place! There would have been doctors, nurses, social workers and child advocates all over this! Pregnancy is not a life threatening situation. Now if this child was in need of a life saving procedure or medication - force could be used via parental consent. If this child needed stitches to stop bleeding - force could be used via parental consent. But force would have not been used to abort a baby in the E.D. - She would have been referred out. Not only referred out - this child would have been interviewed alone by several people and possibly admitted to insure that this was not an abuse case.

[Scupoli]

They do indeed have options. a fifteen y/o girl has the right to refuse any invasive procedure in an emergency room situation

You've got to be kidding. Maybe at your hospital, but there are some very nasty places out there where unethical and immoral but LEGAL things are done all the time. It depends on the physician and I've seen a lot. Don't be naive.

[George W. Bush]

Where?

I'm pretty sure my state has a law to protect the life of an unborn child if the mother wants the child. Normally, this would be applied in vehicular homicide where the unborn child dies as a result of criminal negligence by the driver. I think some other states have the same type of laws. Naturally, the abortion industry sees these kinds of laws as the beginning of a recognition of a right to life. The key to these laws generally is whether the mother desires the child.

So rape and incest victims never get pregnant? I have a bridge to sell you.

Of course they do. But I don't favor the murder of children based on the circumstances of their conception. If you favor killing those conceived in the most unpleasant circumstances possible, I don't think you'll find very many to agree with you here at FR.

[Scupoli]

I'm pretty sure my state has a law to protect the life of an unborn child if the mother wants the child.

A minor has no rights. The parents are looked to legally as the decision-makers. A child's only salvation is the moral and ethical code of the physician, nurse and hospital.

If you favor killing those conceived in the most unpleasant circumstances possible, I don't think you'll find very many to agree with you here at FR.

I don't.

[CAPPSMADNESS]

send me some of these facilities names via freemail and I'll do some checking before you call me naive - I have to have substantial proof of the wrongs of these "nasty" facilities before I pass judgement. With the very stringent federal/state guidelines that all E.D.'s must follow - I would like to see just how many are getting by them without being shut down.

[George W. Bush]

It depends on the physician and I've seen a lot. Don't be naive.

Why don't you document some of these many forced medical procedures for us? Provide some links to newspaper stories and other writings.

In a lawsuit-happy country like ours, you should easily be able to provide some supporting information for your claims.

[Scupoli]

Yes, of course, these facilities keep stringent records for JCAHO to review, don't they? In fact, once we get the names I'm sure they'll grant you immediate access, don't you think?

Call it firsthand experience of corruption. No one knows the extent without working in it. I'm glad your professional purity has been maintained.

[CARepubGal]

And in California, a rape victim can decide at the age of 12 whether or not to go through a rape exam, regardless of the wishes of the parents. I would think the same rules would apply in this case.

[Scupoli]

I'm afraid the entire point has sailed right over your head.

[Scupoli]

Sorry. It gets done. I've done more than I care to count.

[George W. Bush]

Sorry. It gets done. I've done more than I care to count.

You've done more what than you care to count?

[CARepubGal]

Please name the state this was performed in then. no offense but this is really not ringing true.

[Scupoli]

Rape and incest exams.

[CAPPSMADNESS]

Who was talking about JCAHO?? or otherwise known as Just Call And Harass Often....

The Joint Commission is nothing more than a paid membership - it means nothing. I was referring to other more stringent guidelines of which I am sure you are aware.

But since the article also refuses to mention the facility/state/town or any other incriminating information - I must assume that the writing is bogus and the writer is afraid of a lawsuit.

And as for access to what is public information - anyone can access it. As for other information - I have other ways as it is a part of my job.

Professional Purity? It is also a part of my job to insure that it remains intact as it is your job to insure that yours does. I would have to guess that you have had a bad experience down the road - but if it is anything like what the writer of the article is claiming, you need to see an attorney.

[Dick Bachert]

My pastor used to tell the story of a pharmacist friend who could nearly always tell which of his customers had had an abortion. They had this incredible sadness about them and were emotionally very tight when they came in to get their tranquilizer scrips filled. He was also a strong pro-lifer and on more than one occasion, he gently probed to ask some of those he got to know why they were on these medications for such long periods. Almost without exception, they "broke" right there in the store and wept as they told him that they'd killed their baby. You see, all but the hardest cases KNOW in their heart of hearts (where God lives) that they'd done a terrible thing.

[Capt. Tom]

This story simply is not true.

Put this story in the file alongside Bill Clinton's "Black Churches burning in Arkansas lie. - Tom