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But, I'm wondering what would happen if it was established by statute that the party who files for divorce cannot receive custody of the child

Dream on. My wife filed for divorce and promptly enrolled my two kids in a cult [Forum]. She, of course, got full custody and now, twelve years later the kids are on their own but I have no doubt that they have been negatively affected by this. For those who truly love their children there is always lurking in the back of our minds the thought that it would be better for us to simply pack up, write the extortionist checks and vanish so as to spare the children any more pain. The man who marries and who has children in todays American Society is a fool.

I'm sorry that happened to you and to your children. I think that it's pretty frequent in these days, and very sad. Just to make it clear: in my shoot-from-the-hip idea, if your wife filed for divorce, she could not have received custody of the children. She might have put herself in a cult, but the children would be with you. I bet that would have been a better solution. But, that's a solution that exists only in my own imagination -- in the real world, the outcome you experienced is what many people get stuck with. It's tragic.

The man who marries and who has children in todays American Society is a fool.

Correct.

Wives and Children are the government's primary method of controlling men. With one phone call, a man can be removed from his home, and possibly never see his children again, regardless of the truth of any accusation made against him.

It is politically incorrect to state the obvious, but the fact is that nothing is going to change, until men start refusing to marry women and father children. When the pool of eligible bachelors starts to shrink, and women understand exactly why, then things will change.

I advise every single man I meet, to NEVER consider marriage, and if a man is already married, the single worst thing he can do for his future, his credit, his ability to work, and his SANITY, is to not have children that can be turned into weapons against him in a whim.

Once a man has a wife and children, he is at the mercy of the state for anything and everything he does that his wife does not approve of. If he goes fishing or hunting, with other men, it will be described in Divorce Court as neglecting his children. If he works hard to provide a nice home and life, he will be called a workaholic, again neglecting his family.

If he spends too much time at home, he is a hovering, control freak. He cannot win, and will be shunted to the side, a government slave assigned to pay for his former wife and children forever, while she moves the pool boy into the house he is paying for, who will now be called 'daddy' by his former children.

All this comes from the personal experience of friends of mine, who tell me that they would rather see me dead than married. I for one, will never, ever consider marriage or children under any circumstances. I have a wonderful girlfriend, but she knows that if she starts getting the urge to merge, I will kick her to the curb without a second thought.