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...it is in our instinct to respond in a gentlemenly manner when a demure, soft-spoken, and mannerly lass gives us a bit of her attention, and will strive mightily to give her the incentive to continue to do so.

Just one more comment...

Oh? Well, some American men don't return the courtesy.

I really do need to think on this. Soft-spoken? Is this in the genes? I come from a large, loud family. That's why I ask. That doesn't change that we treat each other well and with respect, but we can be kind of loud.

I wouldn't want to speak for Mr. U, but if I were to hazard a guess at how men in general would interpret what he said it would mean soft-spoken as in gentility, not volume. It's the verbal variety of femininity. When a man hears it, it's like being invited to waltz. She's saying "I know the steps. Do you, or should I look elsewhere?" Men with class can't resist the challenge.

Now he might personally prefer quiet women.

""...it is in our instinct to respond in a gentlemenly manner when a demure, soft-spoken, and mannerly lass gives us a bit of her attention, and will strive mightily to give her the incentive to continue to do so." Just one more comment... Oh? Well, some American men don't return the courtesy."

I am assuming you are one of the few mannerly, etc., lasses referred to in the previous comment, based upon your previous postings. There will always be exceptions to the rule. Just as you claim to be one of those better individuals -and I believe you- and seem genuinely interested in refining and improving your femininity -just as I am interested in the same for My masculinity and manners-, rest assured that we are out there. I must admit, as well, that as much as I attempt to act the gentleman, I have had so little opportunity over the years to do so, that I do not always remember to respond in a gentlemanly manner. Or the times when I do act in that manner I really receive the strangest looks... as if I were up to something or attempting some manner of sarcasm.

"I really do need to think on this. Soft-spoken? Is this in the genes? I come from a large, loud family. That's why I ask. That doesn't change that we treat each other well and with respect, but we can be kind of loud."

Volume was not the issue; brazen trumpeting arrogance is.
Although I personally find loud women rather difficult to endure on a continual basis, I have a very good friend named Berta, of Portugese descent whom I have known now for over two decades -and she is loud, outspoken, and very self-confident.
She is also continually happy, smiling, laughing, and has no problem with smilingly sidling up to Me and continually flirting outrageously, with many sexual innuendo-laden comments making up the majority of the dialogue.*laugh* She also works full time so she can afford a little apartment of her own, visits constantly at her mother's place to take care of her, as she (her mum) is in failing health, is continually driving all over the place on the week-ends to make sure her siblings and their spouses and children are in good health at their various domiciles, is still hoping to find a good man to marry and settle down with, and all in all, just has a heart of gold -and I love her to death (not romantically) and will do any favour she asks Me.
Although My personal preference is for a more soft-spoken individual, I hope you can understand why I will gladly expend any effort to assist her, and enjoy spending time with her. She quite deserves anything it is in My power to assist with.