I didn't say that. The point is, he doesn't have to do anything. If the man is a lout, he'll get screwed in the divorce. If he was a saint and his wife an abusive harridan, he'll get screwed in the divorce. It doesn't matter what he does. He could be Father Of The Year. If his wife takes a liking to her biology professor, he's toast. This makes it impossible for any man to believe that any of this is under his control. The advice here is always, "Well, treat your wife right and none of this will happen to you," but that's not what the real world looks like to anyone who has friends that have been through this. The world is full of perfectly nice guys who got absolutely hosed. The system is simply not safe to deal with if you're a man. It will screw you, and it will screw you purely on the basis of your sex; it doesn't matter what you did. The sane response is to stay away from it.