I treated him like a king, I was faithful to him, and never cheating on him. (He, on the other hand, was engaged before the divorce was even final). I was in school, trying to get the education I needed to go to work, to help with the bills. He didn't work steady the entire marriage.
I was granted full custody of the kids, and he was ordered to pay $150.00 a month to help support them. He has made one payment since May. I have paid the entire bill for their support. I am fine with that, because when I do get the support payments, I split them in half and put them in the bank for the kids for college.
Women do have just as much responsibility for making the marriage work as men do, but what about when the women did nothing wrong and the man disappears and takes the children with him.
I intend to stay single until my children are grown and out of the house because I can't seem to find a man who has his head screwed on straight; and I refuse to subject my children to being hurt by a man I choose as a partner.
You've made my point. It takes two who understand what a vow is, and have the personal integrity to see it through, even when it seems easier to cut and run. We've both been on the receiving end of people who place personal convenience and selfish interest above their responsibilities. Sad to say, there are a lot of people like that out there. I've always said I'd rather be in a relationship than be alone, but I'd rather be alone than be in a bad relationship. My life for the last 11 years has been peaceful, if not full.
Actually, I've learned to be OK with being alone. Sounds like you are in similar circumstances. We have to play the hand we're dealt, like it or not. God willing, we'll both find a person worthy of us, and move on. In the meantime, I wish you success with raising the children, and that they grow up to be good and wonderful adults. My kids did just that, and they make me very proud.