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Maybe you should consider some wireless cameras to monitor your daughter. You could also use some wireless microphones too. You could setup your own spy net

Well trust does not seem to be high on your list of values. There's not one word of this is your response.

Your spying of your daughter is contemptable. Maybe if your daughter trusted you more she would come to you with her concerns. But then, you have destroyed that trust.

I can't imagine an adult behaving in such a way.

I have to put in my .02cents..

I don't know if you're just extra lucky or naive. But keep an open mind.

I know of a parent who has 3 kids. 2 are great and they have a wonderful trusting relationship with their mom and dad. The parents do not feel a need to be snoopy etc.. On the other hand, they have one child who via their instincts know that some of the child's friends are bad. The child is "too secretive", combative and non-communicative. It's not the parents fault the child is that way....they've pulled their hair out trying to get the child to "behave properly"..

So, naturally, they are worried about the child's well-being, safety, education, drugs, sex and you name it, they are worried. They have EVERY RIGHT to investigate, snoop and be overly cautious. They have that right because they are expected to limit the behaviour of a child who is either starting to get out of control, or be out of control.

To: Search4Truth

Yeah I know, I know. Let me give you a good dose of reality. When my 13 year old daughter was giving us trouble, I used my scanner to monitor her phone calls. We had a cordless phone and I could pick them up. During one of them she discussed suicide with one of her best girl friends. This best girl friend had a mom who allowed eighteen to 21 year old men to come over and mess around with her 13 year old at their home. My daughter got off the phone and asked if she could go over to her girl friend's home. As a matter of fact she did tell me she hated me when I said no. BFD. She's alive today and lives a pretty good life.

14 posted on 10/15/02 11:13 PM Pacific by DoughtyOne

To: DoughtyOne

Maybe you should consider some wireless cameras to monitor your daughter. You could also use some wireless microphones too. You could setup your own spy net

If it contributed to saving her life, keeping her off drugs or keeping her from developing a sexual relationship with 18 to 21 year olds, when she was 13, I'd do it in a second. Evidently you're have a bit of a comprehension problem here.

Well trust does not seem to be high on your list of values. There's not one word of this is your response.

Let me see, she talked of committing suicide with her friend, yet the issue of trust remains prominant in your mind. Okay...

Your spying of your daughter is contemptable. Maybe if your daughter trusted you more she would come to you with her concerns. But then, you have destroyed that trust.

Well, she didn't come to me and tell me she was flunking out of middle-school. She didn't tell me that she'd been caught on campus smoking. She didn't tell me she was having sex with adult men at this girl friends home. She didn't tell me she was using drugs over there as well. My spying, as you call it, was instigated due to suspicions of these activites taking place, when they started coming to light. It wasn't something that I practiced as a general rule.

I can't imagine an adult behaving in such a way.

And I can't imagine anyone being a big enough air-head to think that there would never be times when general rules would not apply. When trust breaks down, parents have to react the only way they can. If you can't grasp this, good for you. It means you've never had to deal with the problems I did.

15 posted on 10/21/02 9:05 AM Pacific by Search4Truth