[alpowolf]

I see your point but I don't regard a gentleman as an "extreme". You don't have to be a wuss to be a gentleman. In my mind, a gentleman, among other things, can fight like a lion and dance like Fred Astaire. I see no discord between my knowing how to waltz, and the fact that I carry a .45.

[Anotherpundit]

The best classic definition of a gentleman is someone who never insults anyone else by accident.

What most people who talk about 'gentlemen" fail to realize is that a "gentleman" can still be rude, cruel, violent, etc., he just only acts like that when he has a damn good reason to. The best example people might be familiar with is Cary Grant in "Gone With the Wind." "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn."