[Anotherpundit]

The best classic definition of a gentleman is someone who never insults anyone else by accident.

What most people who talk about 'gentlemen" fail to realize is that a "gentleman" can still be rude, cruel, violent, etc., he just only acts like that when he has a damn good reason to. The best example people might be familiar with is Cary Grant in "Gone With the Wind." "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn."

[alpowolf]

You're on the money.

[nhoward14]

LOL... I wonder how many "Gone With the Wind" fans will show up at your next garage sale...

[Verginius Rufus]

A good cinematic example of a gentleman deliberately insulting someone is in A Man for All Seasons when Sir Thomas More (Paul Scofield) insults his friend (Norfolk?) because he's trying to end their friendship. One line is to the effect that the English nobility would have slept through the Sermon on the Mount.