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The Boy Scouts on the Front Lines
FrontPageMagazine.com ^ | September 19, 2002 | By Harold Johnson

Posted on 09/19/2002 5:37:52 AM PDT by luv2ndamend

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To: RonF
"You can make whatever decision you want to donate or not to your local United Way,"

I gave to the United WAy the first year I worked (1959). A friend of a friend worked as a typist for UW. When she showed up sporting a diamond watch the UW had given her for Christmas, I decided they didn't need my hard earned dollars.

Also, I don't know if it is encouraged by the UW or not, but many companies have a very heavy-handed way of trying to force you to give to UW. Both my husband and I, have had employers attempt to intimidate us into giving. The old 'team player' thing, and all. We had to be very firm. I am not sure what the employers got out of the 100% participation, but it sure seemed to mean a lot to them.

82 posted on 09/25/2002 9:54:41 AM PDT by nanny
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Yeah, in my first job out of college (1981), I got the pressure on "our goal is 100%". I told them that my charitable interests were none of their business. I got told that I had to at least fill out the card and put down 0%. I threw it in the waste basket.
83 posted on 09/25/2002 10:26:07 AM PDT by RonF
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Although, it's my understanding that a male can't be primary leader, as they want a female role model in that position.

I've never heard of a male Girl Scout leader. But, assume what you say is correct. Why do they need a female in the primary position? I think it has more to do with the fact that no parent will allow their daughter to go off on campouts, with a bunch of 15-16 year old girls, and only a male as a chaperone.

Men by nature, whether homo or hetero sexual are usually the initiators of sex. Instinct should tell a parent that their underage daughter shouldn't be off alone with a male who isn't related. Most likely nothing will happen, but it sets up an unconfortable situation for both the male scout leader and the Girl scout. Why not the same consideration to adolecent boys? Chances are, nothing will happen between the boy & the homosexual scout leader, but why set up an uncomfortable situation and open all parties up to false acusations.

84 posted on 09/26/2002 8:54:12 PM PDT by YankeeReb
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Why do they need a female in the primary position?

I am told by the GSUSA that it's got nothing to do with parental concerns; they want to make sure that the girls see a female role model as the top leader. Self-esteem, etc.

As far as worrying about chaperones, who's primary leader has nothing to do with that. I don't know the GSUSA policy, but the BSA never allows only one leader to take a group out, and they always require at least one female adult present if there's female youth present. I can't imagine that the GSUSA is less stringent, so I think that your projection of young women alone in the woods with a man if men are allowed to be the Troop's primary leader is unrealistic.

85 posted on 09/26/2002 9:05:09 PM PDT by RonF
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I had been a Girl Scout Leader for 8 years. I also do self defense and fitness activities for Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, and homeschool groups. I am posting to clear up some of the incorrect or misleading information that has been posted so far. Girl Scouts have a rule book called Safet-Wise. This gives you the rules on who can be leaders (ie: over 18), how many adults are need for various activities (ie: 2 adults per 12 girls), any special training for various activities (ie: lifeguard for swimming), who can drive on trips, etc.

For male chaperones Safety-Wise (p. 69) states "It is not appropriate for males to sleep in the same space with girl members. They may participate only if separate sleeping quarters and bathrooms are available for their use."

As to men being leaders, yes they can. In fact in Cape May County, NJ (in my council) there has been a male leader for about 15 years. He is the Head leader, not the assistant. Safety-Wise (page 69) states "Because the female role model is essential to fulfilling the purpose of Girl Scouting, at least one member of the leadership team must be an adult female."

All Girl Scout troops and activities require at least two trained unrelated adults. It doesn't matter if they are male or female, straight or gay. The unrelated part is the key.

Girl Scouts are more careful than most schools. My daughter has had male teachers and there is not requirement to have a teaching assistant in the room too. Yet when I go to the male dentist to get my teeth cleaned he brings in a female assistant.

Yes, there are some gay people that are perverts but the same can be said of straights. I have a son in Cub Scouts. And no, I do not want my son to turn out gay. I also don't want him to be Jewish or Buddist either. I do not care if his leader is not Christian and I do not care if he is gay.

A few years ago, I was doing a self defense seminar for a group of boy scouts on a camping trip in Pennsylvania. After, I was walking around the camp and came upon a group of Boy Scout leaders, assistant leaders, den leaders, and chaperones smoking pot and having a few beers. If my son or daughter had been at this camp they would have been leaving with me. I guess that it should have been okay with me because they were all straight.

If you are so afraid of the morals that you son's Boy Scout leader has, I suggest that you go volunteer as a helper or better yet become a leader. BSA does not stand for babysitters of America. I know the excuse, "I don't have the time". Well, most leaders are not stay at home dads or lottery winners. They work too. And most of them are parents too. So, if some gay childless man want to give his time to be a leader, we should be supporting him, not running him out of town.

Girl Scout Leader from NJ
86 posted on 03/27/2006 2:07:14 PM PST by GirlScoutLeaderNJ
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I had been a Girl Scout Leader for 8 years. I also do self defense and fitness activities for Girl Scouts, Boy Scouts, and homeschool groups.

You are to be commended for your service to your community.

I am posting to clear up some of the incorrect or misleading information that has been posted so far.

Thank you!

Girl Scouts have a rule book called Safet-Wise. This gives you the rules on who can be leaders (ie: over 18), how many adults are need for various activities (ie: 2 adults per 12 girls), any special training for various activities (ie: lifeguard for swimming), who can drive on trips, etc.

The BSA's equivalent is called "Guide to Safe Scouting", often referred to online as the "G2SS". There's an on-line version of it posted on the BSA's national site.

For male chaperones Safety-Wise (p. 69) states "It is not appropriate for males to sleep in the same space with girl members. They may participate only if separate sleeping quarters and bathrooms are available for their use."

What's "the same space"? I can certainly understand if we're talking about the same tent. What about the same campsite? If we are talking about a cabin, if there's one large room is it acceptable to wall off one area with curtains, or do men have to sleep outside? What about adult women? Would they be able to sleep in the same room with curtains up, or would they have to sleep outside as well? If there are separate rooms, is it O.K. for men to sleep in the cabin as long as they use separate rooms? What about the adult women? If there's only one bathroom, the BSA O.K.'s it as long as there's a way to post that the bathroom is in use by adults. For shower/bath facilities, if there's only one it's allowed to be used by mixed sexes by setting a schedule. Each gender and age group would have a separate time; thus, for a Venture Crew that has both adults and youth of both genders, you'd need to set up 4 separate time periods. How does the GSUSA handle this?

As to men being leaders, yes they can. In fact in Cape May County, NJ (in my council) there has been a male leader for about 15 years. He is the Head leader, not the assistant. Safety-Wise (page 69) states "Because the female role model is essential to fulfilling the purpose of Girl Scouting, at least one member of the leadership team must be an adult female."

There was a time when men could not be the Head Leader of a GSUSA unit; I'm glad to hear that that time has apparently passed. The BSA has a similar rule regarding that at least one leader of the same gender as any youth be present at all activities, but they do not justify it on the basis of making a judgment on whether or not a female leader can be a fit role model for a male Scout (or vice versa). It's on the basis that a youth might be reluctant to disclose a health problem in an intimate area to a leader of the opposite sex, and this in turn could endanger their health.

All Girl Scout troops and activities require at least two trained unrelated adults. It doesn't matter if they are male or female, straight or gay. The unrelated part is the key.

I believe that the BSA has a similar rule regarding the relationship among the leaders, but I won't swear to it. As far as the heterosexuality or homosexuality of the leaders, the BSA does not have a blanket prohibition on homosexuals. It bans "avowed" homosexuals. If a leader does not discuss their sex life in front of the kids, or otherwise make their sexuality obvious, no one's going to say anything or mount any investigations. All the issues that the BSA has had with homosexual leaders has involved someone who has stood up and sought publicity about their sexual choices. There are certainly homosexual youth and adults in the BSA.

Girl Scouts are more careful than most schools. My daughter has had male teachers and there is not requirement to have a teaching assistant in the room too. Yet when I go to the male dentist to get my teeth cleaned he brings in a female assistant.

I've noticed that schools are often surprisingly lax on this subject. OTOH, the two situations you describe are a little different. A male teacher in a class is not one-on-one with their students; there are 20 or 30 other witnesses to what's going on. But when you are being worked on by your dentist, you are alone with them, so it makes sense to bring in a female assistant.

Regarding one-on-one; the BSA has a program called "Youth Protection". Among it's requirements is a provision that says that no leader of any gender can be alone with a youth of any gender, unless there is a blood relationship or guardianship relationship between them. If one-on-one counseling is necessary (and it often is), they are to do so in the sight of other people, while far enough away that confidentiality of what's being said is preserved. Does the GSUSA have a similar requirement?

Yes, there are some gay people that are perverts but the same can be said of straights.

10-4 on that. The BSA has specifically stated that their ban on avowed gays has no basis on any suspicion that they are more likely to be child molesters. The BSA's Youth Protection and Two-Deep Leadership policies have nothing to do with the genders or sexual practices of the leaders involved (with the one caveat I noted earlier).

I have a son in Cub Scouts. And no, I do not want my son to turn out gay. I also don't want him to be Jewish or Buddist either. I do not care if his leader is not Christian and I do not care if he is gay.

The BSA makes no distinction among religious beliefs and practices; all it requires is that all leaders have some kind of religious belief. Whether it's Buddhist, Shinto, Zoroastrianism, Christianity, Islam, Hindu, or personal beliefs that have nothing to do with any formal or organized religion is immaterial to the BSA.

The GSUSA is organized differently than the BSA. In the BSA, each unit is operated by a sponsoring organization. About half of it's units are sponsored by churches; the other half are sponsored by service organizations, PTAs, veterans organizations, civic organizations, etc. It is the responsibility of the sponsoring organization to see that the unit has trained leadership, a safe place to meet, owns the necessary equipment like tents and cook kits, is operated according to the policies of the BSA and of the sponsoring organization, etc. A BSA local Council office provides guidance regarding policies, sells uniforms and badges, provides or sells various printed materials like handbooks, owns and operates the summer camp and other such things, but has nothing to do with normal unit operations. Unit operations are the responsibility of the sponsoring organization.

If the sponsor is a VFW and they decide that the Scoutmaster should be a male veteran, they are free to make that choice. If they decide that the Scoutmaster should be a female anti-war activist, they are free to make that choice as well. A Roman Catholic Church parish is free to require that all leaders be members of their parish.

Because of this organization, the sponsoring organizations across the country have a great deal to say about the BSA's policies. The Relationships Committee (comprised of representatives of the major sponsors of BSA units) considered the question of homosexual and atheist leaders a couple of years ago and issued a position that "avowed" homosexuals are unfit leaders for youth; that they set an example that these organizations do not want their children to see as being something to be accepted or emulated. Some of these organizations are reported to have let the BSA know that if the BSA allows avowed homosexuals as leaders, they will cease sponsoring units. This probably totals at least 1/4 of BSA's total membership, and my guess would be that there are local individual sponsors that would make the same choice regardless of their national organization's position.

A few years ago, I was doing a self defense seminar for a group of boy scouts on a camping trip in Pennsylvania. After, I was walking around the camp and came upon a group of Boy Scout leaders, assistant leaders, den leaders, and chaperones smoking pot and having a few beers. If my son or daughter had been at this camp they would have been leaving with me.

Had I been there I would have called the local Council office and the cops.

I guess that it should have been okay with me because they were all straight.

Why would you say that? And, how do you know they were all straight? Were they all engaged in heterosexual sexual activities?

If you are so afraid of the morals that you son's Boy Scout leader has, I suggest that you go volunteer as a helper or better yet become a leader. BSA does not stand for babysitters of America. I know the excuse, "I don't have the time". Well, most leaders are not stay at home dads or lottery winners. They work too. And most of them are parents too.

On what basis do you presume that I am not a BSA volunteer?

So, if some gay childless man want to give his time to be a leader, we should be supporting him, not running him out of town.

My guess, without going into detail, is that my son's unit has had a childless homosexual as a leader. To my knowledge, the person never talked about their sex life. That made them no different than anyone else in his unit; discussion of sexual activity has no place in a Scouting activity. I can't say for sure whether or not the person was homosexual because I never asked, and frankly didn't think it was any of my business. Nothing in BSA policies would require anyone to ask, and there are BSA policies that forbid anyone to ask.

87 posted on 03/29/2006 6:02:46 AM PST by RonF
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To: RonF
I am new too this forum and I did not wish my reply to be directed at RonF exclusively.

Now to answer RonF questions:

Safety-Wise doesn't just give rules. After each rule, it has a detailed discussion on the rule and gives example situations and how the rule applies to that situation. If you can't find the answer there then you call council for clarification. They have a more detailed version of Safety-Wise (I do not know the exact title) which is as thick as a phone book. The version that leaders get is about a 1/2 inch thick. If council can't answer you then they (or you) can contact National. Every couple years they modify Safet-Wise. (I've been a leader for 8 years and have 3 versions.)

>For male chaperones Safety-Wise (p. 69) states
>"It is not appropriate for males to sleep in
>the same space with girl members. They may
>participate only if separate sleeping quarters
>and bathrooms are available for their use."

You asked "what's 'the same space'?"

The dialogue after that section discusses that. I don't have Safety-Wise infront of me but from memory, never same tent or same cabin. If you are tent camping the males have a seperate campsite. If cabin camping the males have a seperate cabin. If using a large bunk house, if there is not a seperate room for the males to use then the tent camp outside. If sleeping over at a museum, the males must either have a seperate room or a distinctly seperate area. (Now that one seems to be very subjective but what we had always done is all the leaders of the troops that are participating decide what is an appropriate seperation.)

As for bathrooms, if there is only one available, and even if there is a schedule for use, if the males are using it one must stay outside. If the males are initially going in they must get a female adult to check if the coast is clear.

>A few years ago, I was doing a self defense
>seminar for a group of boy scouts on a
>camping trip in Pennsylvania. After, I was
>walking around the camp and came upon a
>group of Boy Scout leaders, assistant leaders,
>den leaders, and chaperones smoking pot and
>having a few beers. If my son or daughter
>had been at this camp they would have been
>leaving with me.

First I went back and notified the leaders that were incharge and they told me they would handle it and ask them to leave. I told them that I would be notifying their council and they said they would be too. After I left, I found a pay phone (this was before I got a cell phone) and called the council that was where the scouts were from and left a message on their answering machine.
When I got home I notified the council incharge of that camp and left them a message on their answering machine. Neither of these council offices were open until Monday when both called me. What I did not know at the time is that each council has an emergency contact number that I should have called. I don't know why I didn't call the police.

And you are right, I did not know for sure that they were all straight since they were all too busy drinking beer and smoking pot to be having their preferred type of sex so that I could identify their sexual orientation. (ha ha)

And, when I suggested that you were not a BSA volunteer, I did not mean you inparticular, RonF, I meant the larger you. It has been my experience that in many circumstances that the people with the loudest complaint are the ones that are least involved.

I am glad to hear that you accept you sons leader at face value. I do believe that a gay person as well as a straight person should be allowed to be leaders but if either are exposing our youth to sex or sexuality through words, pictures or actions then they should not be allowed to be leaders. Now before someone points this out, yes I think that it is okay that a male leader can refer to his "wife" because that it is her legal relationship to him, it would not be the same as a male leader talking about his "husband" (yes I know that gay marriage is leagalized in a few states).

I think any good leader/teacher/volunteer stays aware of the confort level of the group that they are incharge of and their parents. For example, many years ago, my girl scouts wanted to go on a certain camping trip that our council was offering. We had 10 girls so we needed at least two adults (an adult with first-aid/CPR certification, an adult with GS leader training, and an adult with GS camping certification - yeas these can be the same adult). Most of the mom's had the leader training and many had the first-aid/CPR but I was the only one with camp training. Here is the problem, I had at the time of the trip my baby would only be 3 months old and still breast feeding. I didn't breast feed at the meetings (even though it is leagal to breast feed anywhere in the state of NJ). I had the baby with me but if she need to be fed I let the assistant leader take over and I excused myself to another room.

The girls really wanted to go on this specific camping trip. I called a parent meeting and explained we could not go on the trip because I would have to bring my infant who I was breast feeding and the I didn't want to have to leave everytime the baby needed to be fed even though when I breast feed in public that I am very descrete. Every parent said that it would be okay with them if I breast fed infront of their daughters and thanked me for talking to them about it first so they would have a chance to talk to their daughters beforehand. We ended up going on the trip but I made sure that the permission slip that each parent signed for the trip reflected the fact that I would be bringing my baby and that I would be breast feeding. Most of the girls didn't even notice, a few asked why I had a blanket over the baby's head, the only lasting effect that it had was that a few of the mothers said that when their daughters played with their baby dolls, they no longer fed them the pretent baby bottle, they put the dolls head against them and put a blanket over its head.
88 posted on 04/08/2006 8:54:21 AM PDT by GirlScoutLeaderNJ
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I am curious as to what the discussion in Safety-Wise says about why the same standards for sleeping arrangements, toilet usage, shower usage, etc., are not applied equally to adult men and adult women. If the GSUSA thinks that molestation of girls by women is not something they have to guard against with as much concern as molestation by men I think they are very much mistaken. The BSA certainly treats adult men and women equally in this regard. Why does the GSUSA discriminate between the two?


89 posted on 04/09/2006 10:59:07 AM PDT by RonF
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