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It wasn't meant to be judgmental. We began this endeavor assuming the reverse would be true. What we found was that the children whose parents are very involved with the church, and whose moms stay home, happen to exhibit the worst behaviours in a group setting. Their social skills are behind the others. They want ALL the attention, do NOT want to share, DEMAND the floor, and act out inappropriately. I find it amusing if nothing else. Plus, in our church the prevailing mindset is moms need to stay home. My wife is a career woman. We have a 3 year-old in daycare. He and his peers are much easier to teach and instruct than the children with stay at home moms. Just an observation, not a judgment.

your observation is the exact oppisite of mine, and I think an observation of history would support mine, as well. I think logic and biology would support them, as well. Maybe you are "seeing" what you want to see. Time will tell, of course; get back to me in about 15 years.

We have a 3 year-old in daycare. He and his peers are much easier to teach and instruct than the children with stay at home moms. Just an observation, not a judgment.

Well, I have to say that I did make a similar observation when my then one-year-old son was a member of a play group once. A very young girl (age 2 or so) appeared almost aloof and very docile; she was willing to go off with just about anyone. She didn't even blink when her mother left the room. The other mothers noted that she was usually in daycare and that daycare children act that way. There was also a babysitter who brought a baby girl to the group; that baby girl acted the same way. I guess some parents might have the opinion that it's a good way for toddlers and babies to behave. Not me. I personally would worry about that. But, of course, my comment isn't intended as a judgment of daycare children in any way. (Yes, I'm making a point with that last line).

Aha, and there is where the bias comes from. I guess you have to stick up for the old lady and justify her decision to dump your child in a kiddie mill especially when the very church you teach at differs from your values. Wonder if you've ever been brave enough to tell your fellow church goers just what you think of them and thier children?
Well here's a study for you, I've seen your "type" as well. This type of justification on the backs of stay at home parents is not a new thing by working parents. Just look at working mother magazine and the rubbish you'll find in there--lot's of self justification and refutation of studies that consistently show that daycare is substandard to mother care. You'll be pleased to know you march in line with the NOW agenda and thier opinion of stay at home mothering as well.
And no, I have no beef with working moms, but if you are going to be so callous about stay at home moms(and this was a thread about homeschooling, not the mommy wars) than I'll give you some back. I'll leave picking on your child specifically out though so that perhaps you can learn a little something from that example.