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The 'right thing' tears at a family
Seattle Post-Intelligencer ^ | July 8, 2002 | Chris McGann

Posted on 07/09/2002 12:48:48 AM PDT by Alan Chapman

Trever Palmer, 17, says he felt nervous and slightly heroic the night he picked up the phone, dialed 911 and informed the King County Sheriff's Office that his father was growing marijuana.

Minutes later, when Aaron Palmer, a Covington computer programmer, returned home from an evening of swimming laps at the local pool, deputies arrested him. They later found more than a dozen marijuana plants growing in a hidden room in the garage and booked the single father of three into the King County Jail on drug charges.

Two months later, as Trever Palmer prepares for his last year of high school, the 140-pound wrestler is still grappling with the consequences of his actions and talked about them in an interview yesterday.

Although police lauded him for doing the right thing, he says half his relatives are mad at him. He's "found out who my friends really are" while trying to avoid Kentwood High School classmates who scorned him, calling him "a weasel" and names much worse than that.

Palmer made the 911 call largely because of a lesson he learned in a Junior ROTC ethics course: "Stand up for what you believe in, don't follow the crowd and be your own person."

He still thinks he did the right thing.

"I felt like I was saving my sister and brother from this guy," he said. "You can only put up with so much."

But his family is torn apart, and his 15-year-old sister may not see the 911 call as such a brave act.

The night her father was taken away, "she really didn't speak much to me," Palmer said. "She was crying and trying to get her stuff together."

Today, she "just kind of avoids me," he said.

Palmer said his 7-year-old brother didn't know what was going on.

Palmer, who is spending part of the summer with his grandparents in Pennsylvania, plans to live with his best friend's family until he graduates and joins the Air Force. His sister and brother are staying with a cousin. Their mother, who is divorced from their father, is unemployed and "doesn't have room for them in her apartment," Palmer said.

Palmer's sister could not be reached last night, and Palmer's father did not return phone calls. Aaron Palmer, 38, was released on $5,000 bail shortly after his arrest and pleaded not guilty last week to a felony charge of drug manufacturing, the South County Journal reported. He faces up to five years in prison.

The boy said many of his relatives can't comprehend his motives for calling police.

"It sucks," Palmer said last night. "I was really hoping that they would understand. It's kind of like that hole in (me) that needs to be filled."

He has tried to explain himself to his father's parents, who "kind of understand, but they are upset."

When he called police, he said, he wasn't considering what would happen to his family. "I kind of figured that would fall into place."

What went through his mind?

"I thought: no guts, no glory," he said.

He thought marijuana growing was taking over his father's life. Instead of spending time doing things with the family, his father tended to his plants -- moving the pots around and watering. He said that on two occasions, people visited the house on account of the marijuana.

Living around drugs is "the part that no kid should have to go through, and I didn't want (my younger brother) to go through it."

There were other conflicts. He thought his father paid attention to his sister's accomplishments, while ignoring his own. And he thought his ROTC courses, which were based on Marine Corps leadership training, put him at odds with his ex-Army father "on different military perspectives."

The "stand-up" message from his ROTC course echoed in his head.

"That set it straight, why I should do it," Palmer said. "For one thing, it's illegal."

He said another factor was the emotions stirred by reading "The Red Badge of Courage" for an English class. He said he was impressed by how a character in the book, a soldier named Nick, discovered his own bravery.

"He stood up for what he believed in," Palmer said.


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To: piasa
A father who is conducting illegal activities in his home has placed his kids and wife in a position of having to cover for him...

Certain activities ought not be illegal. If it was possible to purchase marijuana, like alcohol or tobacco, it's unlikely this guy would have grown it at home.

And the issue of a gun is NOT in any way comparable to the issue of drugs. We have a Constitutional right to keep and bear arms. This right is a natural right and is essential for our survival. No such right exists for 'keeping drugs.' Drugs are not considered essential for use as weapons to protect one's family, state or country.

You don't have a Constitutional right to do anything. The Constitution isn't the origin of rights nor does it grant any. The Constitution is a grant of power from the people to officeholders. That's all. If the 2nd Amendment didn't exist you'd still have the right to keep and bear arms. If the 1st Amendment didn't exist you'd still have the right of speech.

I submit that you have a profound misunderstanding of the concept of rights.

121 posted on 07/09/2002 11:11:52 AM PDT by Alan Chapman
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To: piasa
If your child was smoking marijuana in your home and you caught him would you call the cops on him or would you handle the situation yourself?
122 posted on 07/09/2002 11:12:58 AM PDT by Alan Chapman
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To: trussell
I agree. This was a terribly difficult decision for him but he took the high road. May God abundantly bless this young man. Hopefully his father will see the error of HIS ways and do what's right for the other two kids.
123 posted on 07/09/2002 11:16:15 AM PDT by Marysecretary
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To: Alan Chapman
If your child was smoking marijuana in your home and you caught him would you call the cops on him or would you handle the situation yourself?

I've been asking many people the same question on this thread. The answers are sad.

124 posted on 07/09/2002 11:18:08 AM PDT by Protagoras
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To: ThomasJefferson
Your boss was wrong. He doesn't make state law.

It depends on your state, In Texas a parent or gaurdian can give the
the child booze if they want, In Virginia it would be ilegal. Other states I guess it depends on where you live.
125 posted on 07/09/2002 11:18:35 AM PDT by vin-one
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To: Jeff Chandler
I won't flame you, Jeff. You're right!
126 posted on 07/09/2002 11:19:42 AM PDT by Marysecretary
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To: Marysecretary
I agree. This was a terribly difficult decision for him but he took the high road.

LMAO

May God abundantly bless forgive this young man, and his father. And you.

127 posted on 07/09/2002 11:20:34 AM PDT by Protagoras
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To: vin-one
It depends on your state, In Texas a parent or gaurdian can give the the child booze if they want, In Virginia it would be ilegal. Other states I guess it depends on where you live.

I stand corrected. But I'm guessing most states don't allow it.

128 posted on 07/09/2002 11:22:20 AM PDT by Protagoras
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To: ThomasJefferson
http://www.courts.state.co.us/scao/pubed/kided/definition.html



Throughout the State of Colorado, alcohol and kids have drastically risen. According to our state law as well as every other state, persons consuming or in possession of alcohol must be of at least 21 years of age (12-47-901). In Colorado it is illegal to enter into a liquor store if under 21 years of age (12-47-901(b)). However it is also a criminal act for a person to sell or give alcohol to any person under 21 years of age (12-47-901(1a)). The majority of tickets given to underage drinkers deal with the possession and consumption of "ethyl alcohol." Ethyl alcohol is the definition for beer and liquor and constitute more than half of underage tickets given (18-13-122). Although Colorado law is extremely specific on the law regarding underage drinking, people still attempt to purchase alcohol. Some youth make fake ID's by altering, defacing, or constructing illegal identification. This is a serious crime and punishable by fines, felony, and misdemeanor charges (12-47-901(IIA, IIB). Even though drinking is illegal there are some exceptions to the rule. An underage person may consume alcohol if they obtain permission from their guardians and drink on their private
property


Look at the last paragraph. I have proven you are wrong, I deserve an apology.
129 posted on 07/09/2002 11:22:23 AM PDT by trussell
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To: RightOnline
How do you know he didn't talk to his dad? Maybe he had many, many times but the dunderhead wouldn't listen. We don't know all the facts here.
130 posted on 07/09/2002 11:22:28 AM PDT by Marysecretary
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To: thmiley
Sorry, thmiley, but his FATHER doomed himself to poverty. Don't blame the son for the sins of the father.
131 posted on 07/09/2002 11:24:19 AM PDT by Marysecretary
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To: ThomasJefferson
I wonder how many who think the kid did the right thing would think the same if a liberal school administrator had convinced him to turn his father in for having an unregistered gun.
132 posted on 07/09/2002 11:27:00 AM PDT by tacticalogic
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To: trussell
Look at the last paragraph.

I assume you live in and were talking about Colorado. You were, right?

I have proven you are wrong, I deserve an apology.

You have and I concede your point.

Apology is for wrong done, not being incorrect.

I'd still like to know if you would turn your children in for smoking pot. Or giving it to their friends. (trafficking)

133 posted on 07/09/2002 11:29:07 AM PDT by Protagoras
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To: tacticalogic
I wonder how many who think the kid did the right thing would think the same if a liberal school administrator had convinced him to turn his father in for having an unregistered gun.

I'd be frightened to know.

134 posted on 07/09/2002 11:30:13 AM PDT by Protagoras
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To: Alan Chapman
Another libertine lament. :~)
135 posted on 07/09/2002 11:32:15 AM PDT by verity
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To: NC_Libertarian
If you think a law is unjust then work within our representative form of government to change it rather than bitching and moaning every time some schmuck is brought up on charges of selling dope to minors or using it himself.
136 posted on 07/09/2002 11:32:47 AM PDT by KantianBurke
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To: Red Jones
I think the disrespect came from the father himself, Red, not the son. I doubt this was an easy decision for him to make but neither you (nor I) have any idea what went on in that household over the years. Cut the kid some slack. We have no idea what kind of a father this man was, The boy did. All we have here is speculation. The boy knows the real truth.
137 posted on 07/09/2002 11:33:53 AM PDT by Marysecretary
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To: trussell
Hi there, good to see you. I think your former boss goofed, the way I read the law, the kids were permitted to drink with parental permission but must do so only on their own private property. Unless those folks owned the pizza place, they were in violation. I'm glad you didn't serve them.
138 posted on 07/09/2002 11:35:54 AM PDT by pubmom
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To: Marysecretary
We have no idea what kind of a father son this man boy was, The boy father did.
139 posted on 07/09/2002 11:36:26 AM PDT by Protagoras
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To: Anamensis
Did you ever think that perhaps he had been telling him to quit for years and the situation just kept getting worse? We don't have the facts here, only supposition.
140 posted on 07/09/2002 11:36:56 AM PDT by Marysecretary
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