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My 10th grade biology teacher once told the class, and directed it at the guys, that if you have a girlfriend and down the road want to get married get to know the mother. She will turn into her mother.
It seems to be a fairly true statement

Honestly ladies, who here has not turned into their mother?

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I wonder if this applies to guys as well.
I have seen this in many cases.....alcoholism, the beer guts, bald heads, laziness, domestic abuse etc. of the fathers.
I better compare every man to their father from now on.
Do you think that is really fair?

I wonder if this applies to guys as well.
I have seen this in many cases.....alcoholism, the beer guts, bald heads, laziness, domestic abuse etc. of the fathers.
I better compare every man to their father from now on. Do you think that is really fair?

It's pretty well established that certain physical traits are passed down from generation to generation. Alcoholism seems to be more prevalent in families with a prior history of excess drinking. Observing a lazy or abusive father for 18 years may also influence how a young man conducts his affairs later in life. Yeah, I'd say there is some truth there.

Good genes are passed along as well. I'm fortunate to have a full head of (albeit graying) hair at 41, an age when many of my contemporaries are fretting over their thinning or nonexistant cranial coverings. Examples of a life well-led also seem to have an effect on a man's dealings with a spouse, children, and co-workers once he has left home.

I would have been slightly annoyed at age 18 had anyone compared me to my dad. Two decades plus later, I take it as a supreme compliment.

I would say that the likelyhood of the daughter being like the mother is higher, but it is fair to judge a prospective husband on his father.

Though my wife wishs I was more like my father.

My 10th grade biology teacher once told the class, and directed it at the guys, that if you have a girlfriend and down the road want to get married get to know the mother. She will turn into her mother.

That's the same thing my Dad would say ---you don't look at the girl, you look at the girl's mother because that's what you'll have in 20 years. You can take it further and apply it to men but you also have to look at the other parent--- look at the girl's father (you'll always be compared with him) and same for women ---you have to look at the guy's mother because you'll be compared with her.