Posted on 06/26/2002 8:38:38 AM PDT by truthandlife
Edited on 07/12/2004 3:54:58 PM PDT by Jim Robinson. [history]
Men won't commit to marriage because they enjoy a sexually active single life in a social climate that doesn't push them to marry, a new report says. Young men are indeed "commitment phobic," which is bad news for young women who want build a family before they get too old, said researchers Barbara Dafoe Whitehead and David Popenoe, who run the National Marriage Project at Rutgers University. "The median age of first marriage for men has reached 27, the oldest age in our nation's history," Mr. Popenoe said. "If this trend of men waiting to marry continues, it is likely to clash with the timing of marriage and childbearing for the many young women who hope to marry and bear children before they begin to face problems associated with declining fertility," he said. There are several specific reasons for why young men are avoiding marriage, Mr. Popenoe and Mrs. Whitehead said yesterday in their 2002 State of Our Unions report, titled, "Why Men Won't Commit: Exploring Young Men's Attitudes About Sex, Dating and Marriage." The report is based on interviews with 60 single men, 25 to 33, who live in four parts of the country. Primarily, young men are enjoying a sexually active single life
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Of course there isn't, he's a college student. They know it all.
I laid out some very simple rules before we got married. I get to play golf when ever i want, I get to play my guitars as loud as I want, and when we go on vacation we choose a location where I either bring my golf clubs or my SCUBA gear.
Now just if my wife could find the kitchen!
actually I prefer to cook. Another one of the rules was 'I cook, you clean'.
Women have a hobby too. Its called shopping. Yet how angry do women get when we complain that they just bought their 305th pair of shoes? But be damned if a husband wants to go spend 4 hours with his buddies playing golf.
And I am not exaggerating on the number of shoes. When my wife and I moved into our new home I made her throw out or donate shoes. When all pairs were counted she had almost 250 pairs. I limited her to 50 pairs in the new house.
And how many handbags does a women need?
We have an odd relationship in my house. How many women argue with their husbands about doing his laundry? I WANT to do it since I know that it will make it from the dryer to the closet. When I've offered to mow the lawn, it gets shot down. When he put in the tulips by himself last year while I was gone, I was upset. And when I said I would paint the bathroom by myself, that was shot down.
Having a good life and a good nest is hard work. But he does get him time to himself as well. Balance is important.
Recently I wanted a couple new pairs of golf shoes. She whined "but you have 3 pairs!" I took her by the hand, lead her into the Master Bedroom and then into the walk-in closet and pointed at the over 100 pairs of shoes she had lined up. Her reply, "ok, lets go to the store."
So rather than worry about the number she has, I would worry about the cost.
Everyone has items they like to buy and have a lot of. If she wants shoes, fine, but when I want to buy a new guitar, amp, or effects package. Or golf equipment, which luckily I have several sponsors that I get free stuff from, she shouldnt complain.
I am currently shopping for a new set of irons. I have had my current set of irons for 12 years. I am willing to bet that she doesnt have a pair of shoes from 12 year ago that she still wears.
I consider shopping more of a chore than a hobby. I prefer to collect guns, fish (fresh and saltwater), canoe, and hunt dove, deer, and turkey. Fortunately, my husband likes to do the same things.
Settle down Beavis, I was being sarcastic
I used the example of shoes and handbags because I am sure most men can relate to a womens "need" to buy shoes.
And to show that I am not a pig or a mean demanding husband, as I think some here have thought, one of the last "toys" that I purchased for myself was, are you ready...
A Rainbow Vacuum Cleaner!
Boneless Buffalo Wings
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