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"You said more than that. You also included no visitation and no child support. That's a complete severing of the relationship in my book."

That is a possibility. However, is it not generally true that divorced parents want their children to see the other parent? This would force the parents--without government and the courts externally mandating it--to act like adults. If they choose not to do that, it is not the end of the world. Besides, any attempt to make divorce reach some type of Utopian goal is ill-fated. To clarify, there would be no court-ordered visitation. Obviously, if the parent wants to have the child visit the other parent, there would be nothing preventing that. And I believe that would be the case in most situations.

"Please. Spoken like someone seeking revenge. Divorces aren't all nasty, your system would force the occasional amicable divorce to be a war. That's stupid. If the couple can figure something out on their own then that's the plan that should be used. If the couple can't that's when the courts should step in and sort the mess out. That's what courts are actually supposed to be for, sorting out messes. At that point the courts have to take in the whole situation and react accordingly."

In short, courts are oftentimes used to screw at least one of the parties. (Especially since there are so many liberal judges who use it to force their political/social/economic agendas down the throats of "the little peoople.") I know of too many cases that did exactly that.

I am not seeking revenge--I am just saying that all emotion and court-mandated arrangements should be absent if not eliminated altogether. Otherwise, you will generally end up with at least one party being very bitter about things because they got the raw end of the deal. Yes, there are (apparently) amicable divorces, but they are the exception rather than the rule. In fact, I know no one who has been involved in an amicable divorce.

that's a nice little hypothetical world you live in where people getting divorces don't react emotionally. Out here in the real world though things are different and making an already crappy situation worse isn't going to inspire good behavior. Every divorce is different and there aren't any cookie cutter solutions. Yes people misuse the court, not just when getting divorces but all the time, we need to make the court system self aware enough to punish that kind of abuse not construct a system where everyone that winds up in court takes it in the keister.