I totally agree as well.
The point yendu bwam and I had been stressing is that the producers of porn did not care what real women (like yourself) thought, or the impact on society and gender relations in general. The porn producers didn't care one way or another. They were not trying to achieve this, it was a side-effect of their pursuit of profit and readership. It got zero time on their calendars. They merely responded to what they knew lustful porn addicted men would continue to buy.
Yes, it results in McSexing or homogenizing sex in our culture but this was a result the porn producers weren't planning or striving towards. Their only goal(s)are profit, increase and lock-in marketshare (get more men addicted), and keep lowering society's moral standard, so their business model is free to grow.
In no way should porn be let off the hook.
It has been corrosive to women as well as men.
But the battle is not about porn producers deliberately trying to dictate or influence women. Porn producers lie to men (their product consumers) about women's sexuality, not to manipulate women in society, but to manipulate the men to buy the product.
To be effective against this, porn must be seen in its true light, crass manipluation of men's lust, with the adverse and equally damaging side effect of falsifying women's sexual response.