I understand. It's the result of blaming the hardware, not thinking of Dr. Stochastic, a friend, who is holding it. No short term solution to that, but I think a lot of the long term solution lies in teaching your neighbor to realize the Dr. Stochastic, my neighbor, is the issue.
The anti-gun lobby were brilliant in defining the issue in terms of hardware, rather than people (all our neighbors). We, you have to change that. And aside from your fearful neighbors, you have to make your "stealth" gun owning neighbors come out of the closet.