Aside from being courtious on a date and other formalities, I pushed the envelope every time with the woman, and never once was I ever accused of being "over the top" or "too aggressive"....You can get away with the freight train, if you want...They're just not looking for a social IDIOT, that's all...
Women like confident, spontaneous, unpredictable men and the only thing from keeping you from getting what you want is your own self-imposed standards.