Should Men Still Be Expected to Pay for Dates?

CNSNews.com ^ | February 14, 2002 | Glenn Sacks

[smithson]

"we pay for dinner,they get pregnant."

So thats how they get pregnant, dinner!

[geege]

LOLOLOLOL......don't forget the monthly cramps, pms, and when were pregnant....morning sickness and bringing baby into the world which feels like sh*tting a watermelon:^)

[zeaal]

If the man invites the woman for a date, he pays.
If the woman invites the man for a date, she pays.

[FreedomPoster]

Yeah...I agree. That's why most of the men in my family (including myself) married women who were not American women.

For a really controversial take on that subject, check out Fred: Why White Men Prefer Asian Women: The View From A Sushi Bar

I'm happily married to a traditionally minded American woman. If I had grown up in the Northeast instead of the South, I might have been looking elsewhere, too.

[NittanyLion]

The present condition of American women is so atrocious that it would take a man with a much stronger stomach than I have to date one.

Nah. They're out there, if you choose carefully. The same could be said for American men, or men of any other nationality.

[glory]

bump for later

[cajungirl]

Yep, I am laughing now because my husband routinely tells me his life was barren before me and he thinks I am the funniest person he ever met. He was shy but very very smart and over the years I have enrolled him in scuba, skiing, hiking, etc and never fail to make him laugh three or four times a day. He is devoted to me in spite of forgetting every anniversary, etc. I really couldn't care whether he remembers or not but that whale remark really got to me. My mother remembered insensitive remarks from my father for 60 years and they had a good marriage. Destructor is very young is my guess and needs a bit of polishing by the right woman.

[Destructor]

"sounds like someone has forgotten a few birthday's himself!!"

Oh, come on Babble. It's obvious that Cajungirl wears her husband's cajones for earrings!

[Solon]

It was an ironic joking remark, you just didn't get it.

I got it. And I thought it was quite funny.

[Destructor]

Just can't get a rise out of you can I?

[cajungirl]

LOLOLOL

[twigs]

the real problem is that women I've dated aren't terribly impressed with a nice guy.

Been there, done that. At least, I didn't marry one--I was just looking for a nice one and it was difficult going. When I finally met him--online, no less--I married him as soon as I could!

[Alberta's Child]

You are talking about those crazy women who usually end up alone with a bunch of children from different fathers.

Actually, I would classify none of them as "crazy women" in that regard (I have some ground rules that kind of screen them out).

And talk about making people guess. Have you ever met a professional who is comfortable on a ranch or in a corporate office, can speak with a farmer as easily as an investment banker, and has been both a New Yorker in western Canada AND a western Canadian in New York?

LOL! Figure that one out.

[riley1992]

Grow up. Nothing cajungirl said warranted that sort of childish attack from you.

[ctdonath2]

You can argue for not paying for your dates all you like.

_I_ will continue to demonstrate my love and care for a woman by providing for her at every opportunity.

Ya know, this is kinda like arguments about engagement rings:
Before I wanted to marry, I could concoct all kinds of arguments for keeping the ring simple and inexpensive. I dissed the "three months' salary" rule, and thought a couple hundred bucks for a simple gold ring would be more than enough - very much like your posting #1. Then I fell in love, really deeply truly passionately in love. Wanting to marry, I sought out not a simple "it's the thought that counts" plain ring, I instead deeply desired to get her the most beautiful and precious and fascinating ring possible, maxing out at a completely stunning ring exceeding $10,000 - sad that finances and time would not permit me something better. Likewise, I will pay for a date - not out of some artificial social obligation, but because I truly care for the woman accompanying me.

(That the intended recipient of the ring left the country upon my proposal and never saw the treasure is a different story...)

[Destructor]

Well, looks like I got a rise out of somebody.

[ctdonath2]

"LOL" = Laugh Out Loud
"LOLOLOLOL" = lots of laughter
"ROTFLMAO" = Rolling On The Floor Laughing My A$$ Off

[Tennessee_Bob]

just shut up and take it like your fathers did

Fine, as soon as the women shut up and start doing like our mothers did.