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CHILD SUPPORT As Theft (Disguised Alimony): The Feminist Idea Of Independence Is She Takes His Money
World Net Daily ^ | Debbie Schlussel

Posted on 01/20/2002 12:47:53 PM PST by DNA Rules

Tennis Lolita Anna Kournikova soaks her billionaire ex-husband for millions.

Not the real Anna Kournikova. But Lisa Bonder, who was Anna Kournikova before there was Anna Kournikova – 20 years ago.

If you've read about Bonder's child-support fight with her husband-for-a-month – billionaire Kirk Kerkorian – and before her, Anna Nicole Smith's continuing travails over her deceased Methuselah of a husband – you've been introduced to litigation's latest overcompensated victims: scorned women.

The current specimens all have ties to pro sports. But they're stark examples of a clogged legal system turning relationships into lifelong ATM machines for women. They're also excellent examples of the failure of feminism. In the end, these women achieve "independence" by using courts to mooch off men and the rest of society.

Whether it's Bonder-Kerkorian, Kelci Stringer, or even Juanita Jordan (soon to be ex-wife of Michael), these "disadvantaged" women are out for an unearned payday bigger than winning the lottery.

Tennis fans likely remember Lisa Kerkorian as Lisa Bonder, the '80s' sexy, tall blonde from Michigan, who hit pro tennis' top-10 rankings and dabbled in modeling and posters. Unlike Kournikova, she never achieved the crossover appeal outside the tennis world that garners the Russian tennis starlet an estimated $15 million per year in endorsement income. But Bonder did garner enough lucrative endorsements and tournament winnings to keep her in comfort.

She should be set for life, rather than seeking out, shacking up with, and shaking down a senior-citizen billionaire, Kerkorian.

Instead, Bonder, 36, had a multi-year affair with Kerkorian, 84, beginning in 1991. Does anyone believe a 26-year-old was truly interested in a 74-year-old? She was likely more interested in his billions. Kerkorian, the MGM studio and casino mogul worth over $6 billion, is so wealthy that he was the single-largest non-institutional stockholder in Chrysler and threatened a hostile takeover in the '90s.

But while he easily fought Chrysler's then-Chairman Lee Iaccoca, Kerkorian met his match in the scheming Bonder. He refused her constant begging for marriage so, in 1997, she got pregnant with his daughter. In a move to legitimize the child's birth, they married on the condition that she waive all spousal support and divorce a month later.

But Bonder found a way to get paid for this high-class prostitution act: child-support, perhaps the only reason she had this child with an 80-year-old. The prenuptial pact set per month support at $35,000, the divorce agreement specified $50,000 monthly, and Kerkorian has been voluntarily paying $75,000 per month for a 3-year-old! Not enough, says Bonder, who sued for $320,000 per month, claiming the young child needs $144,000 monthly for travel, $7,000 monthly for charity, and $102,000 monthly for food.

Bonder lives in three estates, worth a combined $26 million. Yet, she's using the legal system – and her daughter – to play the victim. That's the legacy of feminism: Even rich, "independent" women's sports stars resort to shacking up with octogenarians and suing them for a big payday.

Kelci Stringer is another "victim." It's lamentable her pro-football player husband, Korey Stringer, died in Minnesota Vikings training camp on a hot day. But, as a first-round draft pick and starter, he was well compensated and insured for risk of injury. Stringer was also paid his multi-million dollar salary to stay in shape. But he didn't – getting fat over the off-season, dangerously trying to lose it and get in shape just a few days before camp.

But is that his fault? Not according to Mrs. Stringer's lawyers (and Jesse Jackson, who has – surprise! – interjected himself in this shakedown). They've filed a $100 million lawsuit against the Vikings. No matter that out-of-shape Stringer was up to a bloated 335-pounds. Newspaper photos showed him doubling over, gasping for breath during drills that in-shape athletes finessed.

Mrs. Stringer is a "victim," and instead of quietly dealing with her grief, everyone else must pay for this woman "scorned" by the Vikings. Costs of the suit will be passed on to Vikings' ticket-buying fans who, unlike wealthy Mrs. Stringer, are mostly working-class stiffs.

Don't feel sorry for Juanita Jordan – divorcing wife of basketball great, Michael – either. According to the New York Post, she put up with his affairs for years, tailing him with a private investigator.

What did she expect? Her own marriage was the result of a tawdry, litigious affair. She met Michael at Bennigan's restaurant in Chicago in 1988, got pregnant, gave birth and slapped him with a paternity suit. To avoid the suit, Michael whisked her off to a tacky Vegas quickie-wedding at the Little White Wedding Chapel in 1989. What an omen for the kind of smarmy marriage she'd have with a philandering sports star.

But even though she had prior warning and was an operative from the beginning in this questionable partnership, she could win 90 percent of the Jordans' property under Illinois law. Illinois is not a community-property state. Rather than splitting property 50-50, fault is a factor in deciding property division. Totally immoral, should Jordan's philandering, of which former groupie Juanita was well aware, entitle her to 90 percent of his worth? Is she really a victim? Under the law, yes.

The song, "The Sisters Are Doing it For Themselves," is bogus. Just look on the sports pages and the overburdened courthouses. For these newest Anna Nicole Smiths, The Sisters Are Suing it For Themselves. The litigation Lolitas will get their big payday in court.


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To: DNA Rules
should not society protect the custody rights of men who gave up 9-5 parenting time in order to pursue a career that could support the family financially?

Should? Yeah, probably. But men are second-class citizens. They are EXPECTED to pursue a career and sacrifice whatever it takes. And if they do, they've simply met their obligations.

Women, on the other hand, are free to parent if they choose, work if they choose, then divorce and find a greener pasture elsewhere if they choose, all the while sticking their former schlub with the bill.

See? It makes perfect sense. For women.

121 posted on 08/03/2002 2:06:43 PM PDT by IronJack
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To: Hillary's Lovely Legs
"You can do what men I know have done, just pretend that the kids never existed. "

Its a two-way street, I know of a few women who only keep the kids around to collect a check, and in every sense of the word they are complete failures at being a parent.

122 posted on 08/03/2002 2:13:37 PM PDT by Rebelbase
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To: n.y.muggs
my strong sympathies to you; and there is light at the end of the tunnel - hold on til next May 1!!! We'll all cheer when it's over.

But lots of men and lots of women really get treated like garbage when marriage goes down the tubes. Insanity prevails in the courts.

123 posted on 08/03/2002 2:15:10 PM PDT by Red Jones
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To: DNA Rules
any ideas on how to kick-start society out of that inertia?

By demanding the same equity in court that women have been demanding for half a century. Unless a court wants to baldly declare that women are inherently the better gender for parenting -- as archaic a notion as any I've heard lately -- then they have to parse maintenance responsibilities and custodial rights equally.

There are concerned mens' groups who are starting to advocate for men's rights in divorce settlements. FOr example, the American Coalition for Fathers & Children (www.acfc.org). Start there.

124 posted on 08/03/2002 2:17:37 PM PDT by IronJack
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To: DNA Rules
So why does society enforce child support when due from men, but not when due from women?

The DA here intercepted my exwife's federal refund check to pay back child support she owed me.

125 posted on 08/03/2002 2:22:55 PM PDT by RGSpincich
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To: DNA Rules
it is foolish to expect that a court will provide justice in the case of a divorce. A court cannot repair a marriage or a family. But it seems to me that it is a terrible abuse of a parent to first take the kids away from that parent against the parent's will and then also take money from the parent for child support against the parent's will. When courts do that they have effectively turned the parent into a slave in my opinion and I think that reasonable reform means getting rid of this outcome completely in all cases.
126 posted on 08/03/2002 2:23:47 PM PDT by Red Jones
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To: DNA Rules
I'd love to give you a well thought out answer..but all you'll get from me is how socialist women have ruined this country. Men are not only afraid of women now, but confused. The left has presented us with huge double standards..equal but superiour...equal but victimized, we hate men but we'll sue to be just like them....the list goes on.
127 posted on 08/03/2002 2:32:35 PM PDT by goodieD
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To: DNA Rules
Care to pose that question to the "family courts" that routinely and unconstitutionally strip fathers of their right to parent?

Do you mean to say that you care for your children's welfare only as long as you can see them? If a man is not allowed to see his children - he can take it back to court. The same as a woman can take a man back to court when he does not pay child support.

Children still get hungry whether they live with one or two parents. They are pushed into a life without a father at home, the mother works and can give them less attention and then it is ok to also make them have less food, worse clothes?

The children are innocent and a divorce should give the best possible life with one parent instead of two - NO MATTER THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN THE FATHER AND THE MOTHER.

Anything else is making the children pay for their parents actions, making them a pawn to be used to hurt the ex-spouse, and making their lives worse for revenge of a parent.

Seems to me - a loving parent would do right by his children no matter where they live, what their mother does or who she sees. To do any less is cheating your children and they will remember how they are treated by the absent mother or father.

128 posted on 08/03/2002 3:00:40 PM PDT by ClancyJ
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To: GussiedUp
Depends...in some places if your son goes to college, she can use that to milk you until he's 21

In NJ if my sister decides to go to graduate school my father still has to pay(on top of splitting tuition). I think it stops at 25 or 26 regardless.

130 posted on 08/03/2002 3:50:03 PM PDT by amused
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To: DNA Rules
These guys with money aren't innocent bystanders. They are adults and as such should know what they are doing.

Many of them use their money and fame to attact the kind of woman who looks like she could get a man with money. The woman is a status symbol to them. They know what they are doing.

In any case, the children deserve the support of the father and to live at the standard of living of the highest paid parent. The children deserve every penny and then some IMO for the @#%@ they probably have to put up with from both their immature parents.

I do think the fathers should have equal custody. I have suspicions about how many of them actually want it. However, giving them the benifit of the doubt, the courts should award joint custody to both parents. It is the fairest thing to do for all concerned.

131 posted on 08/03/2002 3:59:13 PM PDT by Lorianne
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To: IronJack
Indentured servatude is illegal in the USA.
132 posted on 08/03/2002 4:05:25 PM PDT by Lorianne
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To: one_particular_harbour
Ooooh, you said, "misogyny"!

Ooooh, I'm so scared.

Clearly, you spend your pathetic existence as a marionette on apron strings...

...periodically stumbling over to the computer to type in something incoherent and clearly reflective of a drunken haze.

F' off!

133 posted on 08/03/2002 4:07:16 PM PDT by DNA Rules
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To: Lorianne; IronJack; RogerFGay; Harrison Bergeron; right2parent
Indentured servitude is illegal in the USA.

True in theory, false in practice. A man can be forced to pay ex-wife support (under the name "child support") based upon what career the judge SAYS the man should have. If the man doesn't pay the set percentage of what the judge says SHOULD be the man's income, the man is put in jail.

Slavery.

Gender apartheid.

Feminism.

134 posted on 08/03/2002 4:11:11 PM PDT by DNA Rules
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To: Lorianne
I do think the fathers should have equal custody. I have suspicions about how many of them actually want it.

Come now, that is markedly sexist. Do you claim that fathers love their children less than mothers do? Want to raise them less? Is that an egalitarian view or a misandric one?

135 posted on 08/03/2002 4:14:13 PM PDT by DNA Rules
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To: DNA Rules
It is a skeptical one. I don't claim to know for sure, but you don't know for sure that it isn't the case either. Of the people I know who are divorced, the fathers don't WANT joint custody or anything close to it. They want visitation but they definetely do not want joint custody physical custody (which is different from joint custody on paper).

This does not mean they don't love their children, I never said that or implied that. What I will say of the divorced fathers I know they seem to not WANT to have the day-to-day obligations for their children's care. Even those who have "joint custody" on paper do not take up 50% of the actual hands-on care and raising, and nothing is stopping them from doing so. About half of them move geographically away from their kids.

As a result, I'm not convinced. But I'd love to be proved wrong.

I firmly believe in joint physical custody (JPC) after divorce, not as an option, but as the legal default. I think a parent should have to petition the court to NOT have joint physical custody and 50% of the responsibilty for hands-on care of their kids. We need to change the laws right away to this system.

What I'm skeptical about is all these claims that the majority of fathers WANT the actual physical hands-on responsibilty for caring for their kids after a divorce. Let's leave it at I'm skeptical, and no, that is not misandrist, that is my observation.

Anyway, my skepticism is a moot point. If we had a legal default of joint physical custody (JPC) where each parent was legally responsible for the actual hands-on care of their kids 50% of the time, meaning 50% of the actual effort, time and attention (etc) REQUIRED by law as the default post-divorce arrangement ..... then we'd soon find out if my skepticism is warranted or not.

I'd be very happy if the majority of divorced fathers took up 50% hands-on care (helping with homework, attending school activities, attending church w/ kids, shopping for them, doctor's visits, nursing back to health sick kids, feeding, bathing, instructing .... on and on ... all the time consuming aspects of hands-on parenting). I'd be overjoyed if divorced father's did this under JPC.




136 posted on 08/03/2002 4:56:55 PM PDT by Lorianne
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To: Lorianne
Indentured servatude is illegal in the USA.

So is debtor's prison. Try being a man and missing a child support payment.

137 posted on 08/03/2002 11:08:33 PM PDT by IronJack
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To: DNA Rules; Lorianne; IronJack; Harrison Bergeron; right2parent
Constitution of the United States of America
Amendment XIII
Section 1. Neither slavery nor involuntary servitude, except as a punishment for crime whereof the party shall have been duly convicted, shall exist within the United States, or any place subject to their jurisdiction.
138 posted on 08/04/2002 1:09:22 AM PDT by RogerFGay
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To: RogerFGay
Amendment XIII

The First District Court of Political Correctness hereby negates Amendment XIII and remands this case to appellate jurisdiction for assessment of a term of involuntary servitude for the defendant. Henceforth, Amendment XIII's prohibitions on involuntary servitude shall be construed to extend solely to important people, excluding white males.

Court further finds that men are all pigs and lousy fathers and that a fictional "maternal instinct" inherently renders the lowliest female superior to the most elevated male for purposes of rearing offspring.

139 posted on 08/04/2002 7:36:09 AM PDT by IronJack
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To: IronJack; Harrison Bergeron; Paul Atreides; Senator Pardek; Dark Mirage; Nick Danger; Mr_Pacific; ..
Amendment XIII

The First District Court of Political Correctness hereby negates Amendment XIII and remands this case to appellate jurisdiction for assessment of a term of involuntary servitude for the defendant.

Henceforth, Amendment XIII's prohibitions on involuntary servitude shall be construed to extend solely to important people, excluding white males. Court further finds that men are all pigs and lousy fathers and that a fictional "maternal instinct" inherently renders the lowliest female superior to the most elevated male for purposes of rearing offspring.

And that's the entire size of pretty much everything. It's not a patriarchy, it's a matriarchy. It's not a constitutional republic, it's a dictatorship via feminist-matercentric judicial fiat.

140 posted on 08/04/2002 7:46:48 AM PDT by DNA Rules
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