You were doing fine in making good arguments until you were distracted. Don't get even---get mad! And if that doesn't work, take off one of your high-heels and use it to whack the bartender with. (A well-heeled woman is a well-armed woman.)
lol
however :), I stand by my decision. I think that that poster may have a real problem. And I also think that that kind of talk crosses the line. It's just not necessary. In fact, it is unacceptable.