This statement is ludicrous.....I know first hand, the biggest fear a beaten woman has is going home or seeing the abuser at her house in fact she will invite him inside to diffuse the situation...and ultimately be beaten...court order or not.
With, that said, This judge is right put some exterior force in her to keep him out.
How can I say this as a male, I'm engaged to a woman that was beaten for longer than i care to state...and I can tell you what her now adult daughter told me at 16.
The piece of sh*t showed up ready to storm in and take out his anger i looked at him and said through the glass door i just dialed 911 its jail or you go home.
The coward left and told his daughter he knew I meant what I said..no gun no fist the power of locking up a coward is whats needed.
Amazing what good a strong just judge can do and the power a piece of paper can sometimes wield.
If there's anything a criminal p.o.s. might understand, it's the threat of a judicial order that will extend to both parties. When the jerk calls her up to beg his way back in, she can say "no, I'd like to, but the judge will lock us both up if I did."
From your post I can't tell for sure if it was you or the daughter who told the abuser to leave. But, in any case, it is not a smart idea to answer the door and think the threat of jail will stop someone, or that an abuser will respect a restraining order. If this cretin was at the front door, chances are that he was already in violation of any restraining order. Lots of people have died in the mistaken belief that a restraining order will somehow protect them. A woman's best defense is to be armed and to be prepared to shoot. If a woman doesn't have the fortitude to do that, then she will remain in peril and her life will continue to be controlled by her abuser. But never open the door to an abuser. Tell him to go away and be prepared to defend yourself if he doesn't.