From your post I can't tell for sure if it was you or the daughter who told the abuser to leave. But, in any case, it is not a smart idea to answer the door and think the threat of jail will stop someone, or that an abuser will respect a restraining order. If this cretin was at the front door, chances are that he was already in violation of any restraining order. Lots of people have died in the mistaken belief that a restraining order will somehow protect them. A woman's best defense is to be armed and to be prepared to shoot. If a woman doesn't have the fortitude to do that, then she will remain in peril and her life will continue to be controlled by her abuser. But never open the door to an abuser. Tell him to go away and be prepared to defend yourself if he doesn't.