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Which would be nice, but getting the tubes tied before you've had two kids (preferably one of each) is nearly impossible. Most doctors won't do it, they'll talk you out of it, unless you've got some sort of health risk doctors are afraid you'll sue. I know one woman who had a girl and had given up a boy for adoption, she went through 5 doctors trying to get tied off and none of them would do it, they all used the same excuse "well what if you want a boy to keep". The medical community is really skiddish about permanent deliberate infertility, if you don't have "enough" kids they usually won't help you.

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When my only child was 8 y/o, we finally had medical insurance that would cover a tubal. I had to see 2 doctors before they would permit me to have a tubal. They asked me to think about if I would want another child if my child died. I couldn't beleive they would even think I could just replace one child with another.