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Dying boy, 15, gets wish: losing virginity
Chicago Sun Times ^ | 12/23/01 | BY BENJAMIN ERRETT

Posted on 12/23/2001 6:26:24 AM PST by Mopp4

A terminally ill boy had his dying wish granted in Australia this month, but ethicists are still at odds over whether it was the right thing to do.
The wish was not for a trip to Disneyland or to meet a famous sports star. Instead, the 15-year-old wanted to lose his virginity before he died of cancer. The boy, who remains anonymous but was called Jack by the Australian media, did not want his parents to know about his request. Because of his many years spent in the hospital, he had no girlfriend or female friends.
Jack died last week, but not before having his last wish granted. Without the knowledge of his parents or hospital staff, friends arranged an encounter with a prostitute outside of hospital premises. All precautions were taken, and the organizers made sure the act was fully consensual. The issue has sparked fierce debate over the legal and ethical implications of granting the boy's request. By law, Jack was still a child, and the woman involved could in theory face charges for having sex with a minor. The debate was sparked by the hospital's child psychologist, who wrote a letter to "Life Matters," a radio show in which academics debate ethical and moral dilemmas. The scenario was presented in the abstract, with no details about the boy's identity.

"He had been sick for quite a long period, and his schooling was very disrupted, so he hadn't had many opportunities to acquire and retain friends, and his access to young women was pretty poor," the psychologist said recently in an interview with Australia's Daily Telegraph newspaper. "But he was very interested in young women and was experiencing that surge of testosterone that teenage boys have." Hospital staff initially wanted to pool donations to pay for a prostitute, but the ethical and legal implications prevented them from doing so. The psychologist presented members of the clergy with the dilemma and found no clear answer. "It really polarized them," he said. "About half said, 'What's your problem?' And the other half said [it] demeans women and reduces the sexual act to being just a physical one."

Dr. Stephen Leeder, dean of medicine at the University of Sydney and a "Life Matters" panelist, said the issue was a difficult one. "I pointed out that public hospitals operated under the expectation that they would abide by state law," he said. "While various things doubtless are done that are at the edge of that, it's important the public has confidence that the law will be followed." Jack's psychologist, who works with children in palliative care, said the desire was driven in part by a need for basic human contact. "In a child dying over a long period of time, there is often a condition we call 'skin hunger,'" he said. The terminally ill child yearns for non-clinical contact because "mostly when people touch them, it's to do something unpleasant, something that might hurt." Leeder called the diagnosis "improbable." Judy Lumby, the show's other panelist and the executive director of the New South Wales College of Nursing, argued that the details as presented made it abundantly clear the boy's wish ought to be granted. "I said that I would try my darndest as a nurse to do whatever I could to make sure his wish came true," she said. "I just think we are so archaic in the way we treat people in institutions. Certainly, if any of my three daughters were dying, I'd do whatever I could, and I'm sure that you would, too." National Post


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To: Sungirl

Virginity

Morally, virginity signifies the reverence for bodily integrity which is suggested by a virtuous motive. Thus understood, it is common to both sexes, and may exist in a women even after bodily violation committed upon her against her will. Physically, it implies a bodily integrity, visible evidence of which exists only in women. The Catholic Faith teaches us that God miraculously preserved this bodily integrity, in the Blessed Virgin Mary, even during and after her childbirth (see Paul IV, "Cum quorundam", 7 August, 1555). There are two elements in virginity: the material element, that is to say, the absence, in the past and in the present, of all complete and voluntary delectation, whether from lust or from the lawful use of marriage; and the formal element, that is the firm resolution to abstain forever from sexual pleasure. It is to be remarked, on the one hand, that material virginity is not destroyed by every sin against the sixth or ninth commandment, and on the other hand that the resolution of virginity extends to more than the mere preservation of bodily integrity, for if it were restricted to material virginity, the resolution, at least outside the married state, might coexist with vicious desires, and could not then be virtuous.

It has been sometimes asked whether there is a special virtue of virginity; and in spite of the affirmative answer of some authors, and of the text of St. Thomas, II-II:152:3, the statement of which cannot be taken literally, the question must be answered in the negative. Formally, virginity is but the purpose of perpetually preserving perfect chastity in one who abstains from sexual pleasure. Ordinarily this purpose is inspired by a virtue superior to that of chastity; the motive may be religious of apostolic. Then the superior virtues of charity or religion will ennoble this purpose and communicate to it their own beauty; but we shall not find in it any splendour or merit of another virtue. The resolution of virginity is generally offered to God under the form of a vow. The counsel of virginity is expressly given in the New Testament; first in Matt., xix, 11, 12, where Christ, after reminding His disciples that besides those who are unfit for marriage by nature, or by reason of a mutilation inflicted by others, there are others who have made the same sacrifice for the kingdom of heaven, recommends them to imitate these. "He that can take, let him take it." Tradition has always understood this text in the sense of a profession of perpetual continence. St. Paul again, speaking (I Cor., vii, 25-40) as a faithful preacher of the doctrine of the Lord (tamquam misericordiam consecutus a Domino, ut sim fidelis), formally declares that marriage is permissible, but that it would be better to follow his counsel and remain single; and he gives the reasons; besides the considerations arising from the circumstances of his time, he gives this general reason, that the married man "is solicitous for the things of the world, how he may please his wife: and he is divided"; whereas he that is without a wife directs all his care to his own bodily and spiritual sanctification, and is at liberty to devote himself to prayer.

The Church, following this teaching of St. Paul, has always considered the state of virginity or celibacy preferable in itself to the state of marriage, and the Council of Trent (Sess. XXIV, Can. 10) pronounces an anathema against the opposite doctrine. Some heretics of the sixteenth century understood Christ's words, "for the kingdom of heaven", in the text above quoted from St. Matthew, as applying to the preaching of the Gospel; but the context, especially verse 14, in which "the kingdom of heaven" clearly means eternal life, and the passage quoted from St. Paul sufficiently refute that interpretation. Reason confirms the teaching of Holy Scripture. The state of virginity means a signal victory over the lower appetites, and an emancipation from worldly and earthly cares, which gives a man liberty to devote himself to the service of God. Although a person who is a virgin may fail to correspond to the sublime graces of his or her state, and may be inferior in merit to a married person, yet experience bears witness to the marvellous spiritual fruit produced by the example of those men and women who emulate the purity of the angels.

This perfect integrity of body, enhanced by a purpose of perpetual chastity, produces a special likeness to Christ, and creates a title to one of the three "aureolæ", which theologians mention. According to the teaching of St. Thomas (Supplement, 96) these "aureolæ" are particular rewards added to the essential happiness of eternity, and are like so many laurel wreaths, crowning three conspicuous victories, and three special points of resemblance to Christ: the victory over the flesh in virginity, the victory over the world in martyrdom, and the victory over the devil in the preaching of the truth. The text of St. John (Apoc., xiv, 1-5) is often understood of virgins, and the canticle which they alone may sing before the throne denotes the "aureola" which is given to them alone. It is most probable that the words in the fourth verse, "These are they who were not defiled with women: for they are virgins", are really spoken of virgins, though there are also other interpretations; perhaps, those who "were purchased from among men, the firstfruits to God and to the Lamb: And in their mouth there was found no lie: (loc. cit., 4, 5) are the martyrs; they are declared to be without spot, as in an earlier chapter (vii, 14); they are said to "have washed their robes, and have made them white in the blood of the Lamb".

In the article NUNS it is shown how Christian virgins have been one of the glories of the Church since the first ages, and how very ancient is the profession of virginity. Under RELIGIOUS LIFE is treated the difficulty of proving the strict obligation of perseverance before the fifth century, when we meet with the letter of Innocent V (404) to Vitricius (chapters xiii, xiv; cf. P.L., XX, 478 sqq.). Even at an earlier period still, the bishop presided at the clothing, and the consecration of virgins became a sacramental rite, in which the prayers and benedictions of the Church were added to the prayers and merits of those who presented themselves, in order to obtain for them the grace of fidelity in their sublime profession. In the fourth century no age was fixed for the consecration; virgins offered themselves quite young, at ten or twelve years of age. As there were children offered by their parents to the monastic life, so also there were children vowed to virginity before their birth, or very shortly after. Subsequently the law was passed which forbade consecration before the age of twenty-five years.

The ceremony prescribed in the Roman Pontifical is very solemn, and follows, step by step, that of an ordination. It is reserved to the bishop, and can never be repeated. The days fixed for the solemnity were at first the Epiphany, Easter week, and the feasts of the Apostles. The third Council of the Lateran gave permission to consecrate virgins on all Sundays, and custom sometimes extended the permission (C. Subdiaconos, 1, De temp. ordinat., 1, 10). The ceremony takes place during Mass; the archpriest certifies the worthiness of the candidates, as he does that of the deacons. After the introductory hymns, the pontiff first asks them all together if they are resolved to persevere in their purpose of holy virginity; they answer: "Volumus" (we are). Then he asks each on severally: "Dost thou promise to preserve perpetual virginity"? and when she answers, "I do promise", the pontiff says, "Deo gratias". The litany of the saints is then sung, with a double invocation on behalf of the virgins present: "Ut præsentes ancillas benedicere ... sanctificare digneris" ("That though wouldst vouchsafe to bless and sanctify thy handmaidens here present"). It is to be remarked that the third invocation, "et consecrare digneris" ("That Thou wouldst vouchsafe to consecrate them"), which is added for major orders, is ommitted here. The hymn "Veni Creator" follows, after which the pontiff blesses the habits, which the virgins put on. He then blesses the veil, the ring, and the crown. After the singing of a very beautiful preface, the bishop gives three articles to the virgins with the formulæ used in ordinations, and the ceremony ends with a benediction, some prayers, and a long anathema directed against any persons who attempt to seduce the virgins from their holy profession. Sometimes after the Mass, the bishop gave them, as also to the deaconesses, the Book of Hours, to recite the Office.

From the fourth century the virgins wore a modest dress of dark colour; they were required to devote themselves to prayer (the canonical hours), manual labour, and an ascetic life. After the eighth century, as enclosure became the general law for persons consecrated to God, the reason for this special consecration of persons, already protected by the walls of the monastery and by their religious profession, ceased to exist. Secret faults committed before or even after admission to the monastery led to questions which were very delicate to decide, and which became the subject of controversy. Was one who had lost her virginity to make the fact known at the price of her reputation? Was it enough to present herself as a virgin in order to be able to receive consecration? (See for example "Theol. moralis Salmaticensium", Q. xvi de 6 et 9 præcepto, i, n. 75; or Lessius, De justitia", etc., IV, ii, dub. 16.) The ceremony became more and more rare, though examples were found still in the thirteenth and fourteenth centuries; but it was not practiced in the Mendicant orders. Saint Antoninus knew it in the fifteenth century; while St. Charles Borromeo in vain tried to revive it in the sixteenth. The abbess alone received and still receives a solemn benediction.

Virginity is irreparably lost by sexual pleasure, voluntarily and completely experienced. "I tell you without hesitation", writes St. Jerome in his twenty-second Epistole to St. Eustochium, n. 5 (P.L., XXII, 397) "that though God is almighty, He cannot restore a virginity that has been lost." A failure in the resolution, or even incomplete faults, leave room for efficacious repentance, which restores virtue and the right to the aureola. Formerly virginity was required as a condition for entrance into some monasteries; at the present day, in most congregations, a pontifical dispensation is necessary for the reception of persons who have been married (the Order of the Visitation however is formally open to widows); but bodily integrity is no longer required. If the candidate's reputation is intact, the doors of monasteries are open to a generous repentance as to a generous innocence. (See NUNS; RELIGIOUS LIFE; VOWS; VEIL, RELIGIOUS.)

A. VERMEERSCH
Transcribed by Christine J. Murray

The Catholic Encyclopedia, Volume XV
Copyright © 1912 by Robert Appleton Company
Online Edition Copyright © 1999 by Kevin Knight
Nihil Obstat, October 1, 1912. Remy Lafort, S.T.D., Censor
Imprimatur. +John Cardinal Farley, Archbishop of New York

Source: http://www.newadvent.org/cathen/15458a.htm
381 posted on 12/23/2001 4:26:21 PM PST by Cultural Jihad
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To: Sungirl
Hey, I found an article but I don't know how to post it. Sex gifts for Australian businessmen The gifts are for legal brothels, not the streets By Phil Mercer in Sydney
382 posted on 12/23/2001 4:27:52 PM PST by cocknlock
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To: FatherTorque
The GOD I believe in, is not going to send a 15 year old with a terminal illness to eternal damnation for wanting to have a roll in the hay before he left this earthly veil.

It's an entirely different question as to the fates of those who facilitated his sinful actions as well as those here who would excuse and rationalize it.

383 posted on 12/23/2001 4:28:28 PM PST by Cultural Jihad
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To: cocknlock
Hey, I found an article but I don't know how to post it.

http://www.drudgereport.com

384 posted on 12/23/2001 4:30:56 PM PST by Cultural Jihad
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To: Cultural Jihad
I'm not interested in the religious part of this. I am talking about adults setting a good example for the teenagers. Kids need guidance.....they need to be taught abstinence... not that its "OK IF YOU ARE SICK" crap. Or "Let me help you son...I'll be back with a few girls for you so you can enjoy loveless sex becuz you are special". Of course this only applies to the boys. Girls are excluded since these hypocrits in here do not want the pregnant daughter. It's the prolific healthy son that does a man proud....

You would think that adults would want the word out that loveless sex is not right.

385 posted on 12/23/2001 4:32:27 PM PST by Sungirl
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To: Cultural Jihad
Mmmm...
oh Jihad,
rusher of the abuse button, has it ever
occured to you, some here may
not be catholic?
386 posted on 12/23/2001 4:34:01 PM PST by bigcheese
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To: Sungirl
I dont' break the laws everyday....speak for yourself.

Yeh, I guess you never drive over the posted speed limit do you?  Please!  Don't start down that road, they are so many silly laws on the books that it's inevitable that even the most law-abiding citizens will break them. 

That's not the point, the point is, much like speeding, this was a victimless crime.  No harm no foul.

As far as all your scenarios, I don't know, I wouldn't know unless faced with it.  With the facts as they are in this article though, if it was my child I would have no problem with it at all. 

Giving your approval for special circumstances that seem logical to you is sending out a bad message. It ain't right.

So sayeth you, but when I die and have to face my Maker I would much rather be trying to explain to him my side than yours. 

387 posted on 12/23/2001 4:34:44 PM PST by FatherTorque
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To: Sungirl
Loveless sex is better than no sex..........no?
388 posted on 12/23/2001 4:34:47 PM PST by cocknlock
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To: Sungirl;Squantos
I take it there's no difference for you if it's your wife or the neighborhood, prostitute.

I wouldn't know I just go with my wife. Do you have a guilty conscience? This youngster may have just wanted to know what it was like to share physical pleasure with another human being. That hooker may have had a heart of gold. I don't know, you don't know, and maybe, just maybe, on his death bed he asked God's forgiveness for his failings as a human being. I leave that to God and this young man.

Keep in mind the urge to procreate is one of the strongest urges given to us by the Creator. IF you believe in God.

389 posted on 12/23/2001 4:36:30 PM PST by TEXASPROUD
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To: Cultural Jihad
How come the Catholic church owns factories that are devoted towards methods of contraception? How come?
390 posted on 12/23/2001 4:36:48 PM PST by Buckeroo
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To: bigcheese
Pssst, It's OK, he ain't either. Unless he's had a conversion in the past few months.
391 posted on 12/23/2001 4:37:10 PM PST by FatherTorque
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To: Mopp4
All I can tell you is that when I was in Viet Nam, There were many of us that were 18 and virgins. And I can tell you with some authority, getting laid before we got killed was a VERY popular subject of conversation amoung us infantrymen. I believe that was a financially rewarding situation for any young Vietnamese girl who was willing to accommodate American G.I.s during their stay in Southeast Asia.
392 posted on 12/23/2001 4:38:35 PM PST by Desparado
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To: cocknlock
WOW! Well..then....culture is a changing. I hope they start that over here for all the guy workers in here. What do you say guys? Forget the Christmas bonus....you have another EXCUSE to have a loveless roll in the hay with a prostitute! Isn't that great?? The sooner that gets over here the better.. right?? You dont' have to be close to death anymore....just an employee. Maybe you can get the boss to find a stud for the daughters Christmas present? Help her lose that virginity with the right stud! This is breaking news....I can't wait for it to come over here...

You guys must be ecstatic!! Congratulations...you're attitudes halp make this possible!! GOOD JOB BOYS!

393 posted on 12/23/2001 4:38:46 PM PST by Sungirl
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To: Sungirl
Ah,love,there's the rub!

Still,how simple all this would have been if he had just wanted a homosexual experience before he died,then all would have condemmed him.

How about wild loveless sex with an old geezer? I could be terminally ill,have been since 1970.

Heck,you could even keep your clothes on.

394 posted on 12/23/2001 4:39:25 PM PST by tet68
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To: bigcheese
Is this your "Bridgett Ann"?
Note for the Puritanical Freepers, this link contains NUDE female breasts. Travel there at your own risk.
http://www.hotbody.com/categories/free_mod/a_b/b_ann.htm>
395 posted on 12/23/2001 4:39:26 PM PST by I Luv Bush
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To: Cultural Jihad
Way to stick to your guns. The actions of these doctors is sickening. They will have to answer to God for their them.

"But he that shall scandalize one of these little ones that believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone should be hanged about his neck, and that he should be drowned in the depth of the sea."

"Woe to the world because of scandals. For it must needs be that scandals come: but nevertheless woe to that man by whom the scandal cometh." Matthew 18 6-8

396 posted on 12/23/2001 4:40:53 PM PST by Cap'n Crunch
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To: cocknlock
Loveless sex is better than no sex..........no?

EWWW!!! You're a guy aren't you? Its not like food and shelter for Gods sakes.....what are you... a monkey?

397 posted on 12/23/2001 4:41:17 PM PST by Sungirl
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To: Sungirl
Do you REALLY believe the culture is changing? Does the term "oldest profession" make you maybe think differently?
398 posted on 12/23/2001 4:42:02 PM PST by cocknlock
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To: Cap'n Crunch
Scourge the heathen,whip his eyes to make him see the truth.

Hmmmmmm............

399 posted on 12/23/2001 4:43:47 PM PST by tet68
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To: I Luv Bush
Thats her,,,,,, she looks even better in the video. Sigh. Just the kind of girl G-d wants me marry and ..... blush .... I shouldn't say it, its SO dirty and SCANDALOUS!
400 posted on 12/23/2001 4:45:17 PM PST by bigcheese
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