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Dying boy, 15, gets wish: losing virginity
Chicago Sun Times ^ | 12/23/01 | BY BENJAMIN ERRETT

Posted on 12/23/2001 6:26:24 AM PST by Mopp4

A terminally ill boy had his dying wish granted in Australia this month, but ethicists are still at odds over whether it was the right thing to do.
The wish was not for a trip to Disneyland or to meet a famous sports star. Instead, the 15-year-old wanted to lose his virginity before he died of cancer. The boy, who remains anonymous but was called Jack by the Australian media, did not want his parents to know about his request. Because of his many years spent in the hospital, he had no girlfriend or female friends.
Jack died last week, but not before having his last wish granted. Without the knowledge of his parents or hospital staff, friends arranged an encounter with a prostitute outside of hospital premises. All precautions were taken, and the organizers made sure the act was fully consensual. The issue has sparked fierce debate over the legal and ethical implications of granting the boy's request. By law, Jack was still a child, and the woman involved could in theory face charges for having sex with a minor. The debate was sparked by the hospital's child psychologist, who wrote a letter to "Life Matters," a radio show in which academics debate ethical and moral dilemmas. The scenario was presented in the abstract, with no details about the boy's identity.

"He had been sick for quite a long period, and his schooling was very disrupted, so he hadn't had many opportunities to acquire and retain friends, and his access to young women was pretty poor," the psychologist said recently in an interview with Australia's Daily Telegraph newspaper. "But he was very interested in young women and was experiencing that surge of testosterone that teenage boys have." Hospital staff initially wanted to pool donations to pay for a prostitute, but the ethical and legal implications prevented them from doing so. The psychologist presented members of the clergy with the dilemma and found no clear answer. "It really polarized them," he said. "About half said, 'What's your problem?' And the other half said [it] demeans women and reduces the sexual act to being just a physical one."

Dr. Stephen Leeder, dean of medicine at the University of Sydney and a "Life Matters" panelist, said the issue was a difficult one. "I pointed out that public hospitals operated under the expectation that they would abide by state law," he said. "While various things doubtless are done that are at the edge of that, it's important the public has confidence that the law will be followed." Jack's psychologist, who works with children in palliative care, said the desire was driven in part by a need for basic human contact. "In a child dying over a long period of time, there is often a condition we call 'skin hunger,'" he said. The terminally ill child yearns for non-clinical contact because "mostly when people touch them, it's to do something unpleasant, something that might hurt." Leeder called the diagnosis "improbable." Judy Lumby, the show's other panelist and the executive director of the New South Wales College of Nursing, argued that the details as presented made it abundantly clear the boy's wish ought to be granted. "I said that I would try my darndest as a nurse to do whatever I could to make sure his wish came true," she said. "I just think we are so archaic in the way we treat people in institutions. Certainly, if any of my three daughters were dying, I'd do whatever I could, and I'm sure that you would, too." National Post


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To: Lowelljr
Maybe YOU should try READING your bible. The original quote is accurate... if not, then why is this supporting quote to the original found at Luke 6:37: "Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven."

Regardless, Im not xtian, but it seems I know it alot better than the "hit you across your head with a bible" crowd. Now, perhaps you can answer a question for me that no one else has: how is this is sin in God's eyes if the boy was Jewish? There is no prohibition against fornication in the 'old' testament.... so, where is the boy's hellfire and damnation you seem to want him to wallow in (not to mention going against the above scripture out of your own bible as well)?

321 posted on 12/23/2001 2:17:52 PM PST by bigcheese
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To: DB
So when a soldier goes off to war it is immoral for him to have sex with his wife and have child???

Straw men, straw men everywhere, so let's all have a fire. Look, this is a 15 year-old kid who wanted instant gratification. He took little thought for the consequences, since he figured he'd be dead soon. This is far different from a soldier who is hardly as certain to die as a terminal cancer patient. Moreover, the soldier would have a small pension were he to fall in battle.

322 posted on 12/23/2001 2:21:57 PM PST by Dumb_Ox
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To: FreedomFighter86
If a convicted mass murderer can get what he wants for his "last meal" before going to the electric chair, why can't an innocent adolescent get his "first sex" before going to meet his maker. Seems like a normal desire for a 15-year-old boy. He got what HE wanted, not what someone else wanted for him! Good for him!

I remember, as an adolescent, feeling like I didn't want to die before I experienced sex, once. Then, after I experienced it, I didn't want to die before I experienced it twice....Then thrice....and so on.

323 posted on 12/23/2001 2:24:36 PM PST by BillofRights
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To: Mopp4
The boy didn't want a girlfriend. He wanted to use the woman to get off. He essentially wanted to masturbate using a live woman.
324 posted on 12/23/2001 2:25:06 PM PST by DouglasKC
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To: Sungirl
Quit calling girls who give it up "whores"...I think they are great assets. Us guys can sex up plenty of girls...but girls who have sex more then once are whores? Wrong...God Bless them, EVERY ONE OF THEM!
325 posted on 12/23/2001 2:25:12 PM PST by FreedomFighter86
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To: Dumb_Ox; innocentbystander
The Libertarian way would be for the hospital staff to chip in to pay for the abortion, too, or to just sneer and say it's all her responsibility to murder it or care for it. Funny how cheap human life becomes when it is equated to cockroaches.
327 posted on 12/23/2001 2:27:14 PM PST by Cultural Jihad
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To: Dumb_Ox
Im glad to see you back, ox. I was worried you has logged out, so I was going to log out... but then a post and run hit that i just had to refute. OH WELL.

I got to thinkning more and more about the pure logic side of this. And I think, from a purely logical standpoint, that the chances of conception are so incredibly low that this would make an, dare I say, acceptable risk. We take a greater chance of getting killed in an automobile accident on the way to Disney then this kid took if 'all necessary precautions were taken'. So, I guess, from logic, what weight his getting his rocks off for the first and last time would have to be weighed against the very small chance of conception.

And I honestly dont know how that could be done or if it could be done from a strictly logic standpoint.

328 posted on 12/23/2001 2:30:51 PM PST by bigcheese
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To: BillofRights
He got what HE wanted, not what someone else wanted for him! Good for him!

And that is all that matters to the moral-liberals who are really immature and infantile: "I WANT and therefore GIVE me!"

329 posted on 12/23/2001 2:30:57 PM PST by Cultural Jihad
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To: Cultural Jihad
And that is all that matters to the moral-authoritarians who are really immature and infantile:

"I WANT and therefore you must OBEY me!"

331 posted on 12/23/2001 2:37:13 PM PST by tpaine
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To: bigcheese
Your dealing in minutaue that really has no bearing on this.

Um, both the legality and the morality of the matter are at issue here, although I've been concentrationg on countering the sex-revolution morality. (And these two spheres are not entirely separate; anti-prostitution laws, and laws against corrupting minors, are only just if the actions they forbid are in fact evil)

Who are you to say if it is rationally wrong? Really? Neither of us can make that judgement without guidelines of an authoritative source, such as Scriptures, but you did not seem interested in that at the start of this debate. So how do you know "getting his rocks off" is wrong? Really? Tell me logically how it is wrong?

Very well. It is wrong because it uses human sexuality without reference to its twin purposes: the intimate expression of human love, and the generation of human life. Moreover, in the case of this boy, instead of being the master of his passions he is their slave.

By your references to Nietzsche and incommensurable, allegedly non-self-evident axioms, I am under the impression that you are attacking rational argument, while still trying to rationally argue with me. Do I misunderstand, or are you in a self-defeating endeavour?

332 posted on 12/23/2001 2:39:53 PM PST by Dumb_Ox
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To: Lazarus Long
He essentially wanted to masturbate using a live woman.

Jeez,ya know,I never thought of that!

Most of these folks wouldn't have even bought him a blow up doll. Here son,read this tract and think about eternal damnation,oh have a nice day!

333 posted on 12/23/2001 2:42:27 PM PST by tet68
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To: Dumb_Ox
Master your passion and die,punk.

Ah the compassion of christians knows no bounds,just like their hubris.

334 posted on 12/23/2001 2:45:20 PM PST by tet68
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To: Dumb_Ox
"reference to its twin purposes: the intimate expression of human love, and the generation of human life. Moreover, in the case of this boy, instead of being the master of his passions he is their slave."

Whose twin purposes? Who says those are the "purposes" of life? Who says being a slave of your passions is wrong?

Hehehehehe... I was just trying to get you to admit that there does have to be an authoritative source from which to build, or receive, morality from. I will admit, on review, I did it rather awkwardly. But I think you see my issue here.... without defining morality against a 'yardstick' of mores handed down and verbally taught originally from an 'authoritative' source, how can you say "purposes" with any meaning or that being a "slave of passion" is wrong?

My point is that you fall into the same trap Nietzsche fell into defining morality ...if you wish to scrub existing morality and build from a blank sheet. It simply doesn't work, as I think you are well aware of, smart_ox.

335 posted on 12/23/2001 2:52:14 PM PST by bigcheese
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To: tet68
Libertarian ideologues everywhere agree: "...among which are the rights to an early death, slavery to vice, and the pursuit of unneeded suffering."
336 posted on 12/23/2001 2:52:59 PM PST by Cultural Jihad
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To: bigcheese
And I honestly dont know how that could be done or if it could be done from a strictly logic standpoint.

Some really quick clarifications: Logic is divided into three types, inductive, deductive, reductive, none of which are quite what I mean here. I prefer the term "rational." To clarify my definition of rational: man's faculty to know. Part of this rational capacity includes understanding, that faculty which grasps first principles. I hold that some ethical laws are knowable, hence rationally reachable; there are some things the evil of which we can't "not know," as even murderers hate being murdered, and rapists hate being raped.

To expand on my above-allusion to incommensurable first-principles, Alasdair MacIntyre has written some great stuff on resolving disputes between apparently incompatible rational and ethical systems.

Sorry for the jumbled nature of this particular reply, but I hope this information is useful. May I ask how advocating that a 15-year-old have his way with a prostitute is compatible with traditional American conservatism?

337 posted on 12/23/2001 2:53:09 PM PST by Dumb_Ox
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To: Demidog
I think dirty sex is pretty spiritual. I like women a little on the trashy side. But I draw the line at drugged sex. Ludes are illegal too. And all this talk about sex and cockroaches.............yuk! Way too kinky!
338 posted on 12/23/2001 2:53:15 PM PST by cocknlock
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To: Cultural Jihad
I don't care what you agree with.
339 posted on 12/23/2001 2:55:00 PM PST by tet68
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To: cocknlock
Six legs,not too bad if you're a leg man.

I had a long conversation with a cockroach once,patriotic Bastard he was,real flag waver!

340 posted on 12/23/2001 2:57:50 PM PST by tet68
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