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To: Cu Roi
This requires some one-on-one time, and I believe it should apply to sex as well.

Everything you need to know about another person you can learn in a group or non-sexual setting. one on one doesn't require isolation from everyone else. (haven't you ever had a conversation with someone at a ballgame or in a bar?)

GSA(P)

772 posted on 12/12/2001 5:22:17 AM PST by John O
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To: John O
Everything you need to know about another person you can learn in a group or non-sexual setting. one on one doesn't require isolation from everyone else. (haven't you ever had a conversation with someone at a ballgame or in a bar?)

You can have a conversation with another individual within the setting of a larger group, but you may not completely get to know someone in that setting. Larger groups exhibit a stronger peer pressure influence, and this is especially true in a church group or other religious setting.

I believe that a group strong enough to limit sexual activity between its members will also constrain conversations. I want to learn all of a person's beliefs, faults, etc., independent of what their friends, parents, and other people in the church think.

Another thing is that some people are really good ``on stage'' but are not very good one on one. On the other extreme, there was one girl that I knew in the context of a group, but would barely talk to me while others were around. But when I encountered her individually, she would really open up and could talk about all kinds of things. It was only then that I learned that there was some attraction there and she was just scared that someone might notice when the others were around.

778 posted on 12/12/2001 6:22:31 AM PST by Cu Roi
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